Seems like young girls these days are having sex like rabbits with no concern for anything. How long do you usually wait to give up the goods? Do you have other "rules" to abide by before you give it up?
(Btw, guys, please feel free to answer this one as well)
2006-10-24 05:32:07 · 35 answers · asked by TermiteChokinOnASplinter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this will eb an odd answer(as i am a virgin) but the hell with it, her goes, i would want it to be somthing meaningful, not hey your horny? me too! lets fornicate liek stoned gerbils! but not to say im against pre maritayl se, i believe whenever two people are ready, sex is the most natural thing aobut human nature, we all think aobu tit, we all want it, and to deny either of those is a big abg of crap. howver restraint comes into it, not handcuffs, or rope, i am refering to mental restraint, after all you wouldnt want to do it on the first date, you dont know that much, and you could end up with a serial killer, or at least a sleazeball palyer who has had more girls than a strip club owner. and no one wants an std, do they?
2006-10-24 05:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on how old you are, and how much experience you have. I waited a looooooooong time to give up my virginity to a guy I dated for 10 months. After that, I've waited on a range of several days to several weeks, depending on how much I like the guy. It also depends on whether the guy makes a move toward that degree, some guys do while others don't. Again, if you are in your twenties and mature enough to determine the value of sexual relations with a man, then it doesn't really matter when it occurs. If the timing is right and the feelings are there, then go for it past the 3rd or 4th date, but definitely not on the 1st!!! Oh and remember, don't sleep around ... whether you're a man or a woman ... you'll be a slut if you do that.
2006-10-24 05:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by J C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I didn't until there was an engagement ring on my finger. There was no way in hell I was giving up my virginity before I was ready, and certainly not to someone who I didn't love enough to marry. I was 22 when I slept with my fiance for the first time, and if I could go back, I wouldn't have done it differently (except maybe wait until marriage, but I just couldn't wait any longer). I suppose, though, that it boils down to when you're ready. It's a shame, though, that so many women give it out without any thought.
And by the way, I'm only 26 now, so no, I'm not an old-fogie with old-fashioned ideas.
2006-10-24 05:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Shayna 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I may be an old foggie, but waiting until at least age 18 seems to make sense since pregnancy is a very real risk. Getting pregnant in high school would seem to be a life altering event whose risk exceeds the reward. Even at age 18, there are consequences that cannot be dismissed. If you must participate in any serious intimacy at a younger age, I seriously suggest oral sex instead.
2006-10-24 05:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by united9198 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wait until you are ready. I would say when you are ready to be a mother, since there is no 100% guarantee on any birth control. Do not let peer pressure encourage you to have sex until you are ready. There is no official number of dates with a guy that states now you need to sleep with him. If he is a respectful guy, he will even wait to talk to you about it. Also, he will not pressur into having sex with him. No one can tell you when you are ready. And if you think of it as "giving it up", then that is just sad. You need to respect yourself more than that, or no guy will ever respect you.
2006-10-24 05:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by billybobcowboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this depends on your goal. If you want to keep this boy I'd say wait a month. This will give you both more time to get to know each other and will help weed out the guys who just want sex.
However, if you just want sex, what is the point of waiting, just jump him in the parking lot
2006-10-24 05:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first and foremost i wanted to stay a virgin and lose my virginity when i got married since it is more special that way! second of all, it took me 4 months or more but i was dating the guy for 5 months and knew him for 5 and 1/2 months! third, i am not a one night stand girl who will sleep with any guy, especially some drunk from a club. fourth, i wish i had waited and not done it since it happened on New Years' Eve and somwhere deep inside regret doing what I did that night. my rules to dating: no guys who are divorced, have kids, or just want to sleep with you! i actually waited until i found the right guy andthen it happened.i do not like to be easy and just go with the first guy or something because that is not me!
2006-10-24 05:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im a young girl and i was one of the rabbits also, but I can say i wanted until it was a really serious relationship and we're still together til this very day.
2006-10-24 05:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a virgin, but as for people who are sexually active, I think that it's probably not the best thing to do on the first date. Unless that's what type of person you are, then do what you want to do. It doesn't look classy though, so if you are the type of person who cares about image, then reserve your self better. If you really like the person and things have been going good for you, then go for it. Just let it be after you really have got to know the person though.
2006-10-24 05:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by pumpk713 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I might not be the best person to ask because I have only been with two people that I had a relationship with, but I did try to hold out for as long as possible until I felt like I was going to explode... probably 2 weeks.
2006-10-24 05:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by *Amanda* 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋