My boyfriend (we live together) has an ex /broke up with three years ago. He swears he does not like her, but his friends tell me the following: "She drives by our house, cried when we moved in, talks about him all the time, asks tons of questions about me, tries to go to any event that he will be there, brings guys to make him jealousetc" She has called him at 2:00 in the morning, texted him all day when we have been at common events, emails, etc.
Then-she confronted me at a bar, told me she was going to get him back, I had moved into HER house, and threatned me. She also said I don't know him like I think I do.
CONCLUSION: We saw her a bar on Friday, and my boyfriend completely ignored her the whole time. Then he said he wanted to say good bye to her/ told me to wait outside. I did not, he talked to her for 10 min. He has lied about talking to her, so I checked his phone. He had a one hr phone call two wks ago and hid it. He also yelled at me, called me psycho and crazy. Cheater?
2006-10-24 05:19:57 · 29 answers · asked by Rebecca * 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Possibly a cheater, but even if he isn't why is he even in contact with an ex from 3 years ago. He should love and respect you enough to eliminate her from his life.
2006-10-24 05:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had 1 million dollars, I'd bet every penny that he's cheating! If a man ignores a woman all night and then wants to say good bye while you wait outside, there's something going on. Especially the 1 hour hidden phone call! My suggestion is that you save yourself some future bullshit and get rid of him. Get out there and have fun, a real man will come along no doubt!
2006-10-24 05:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a cheater, really. But as far as ex's are concerned, I feel they cheat with them, because it's already familiar. The people have already bonded previously so it's more about the cheating rather than meeting someone and getting to know them and all that jazz. They know each other, they know what they like, and they take it from there. It's easy and comfy. Cheaters suck..
2016-05-22 07:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cant really say if he has cheated yet!!! But if he is not he is doing things to make himself look suspicious. If he wants to be friends with an ex, that's not really a big deal, BUT if he hangs out with her, you should be there and if he talks to her, he should not lie about it. He is calling you psycho and crazy because he is trying to make you look like the bad one. This way you leave him alone.
If she threatened you and has said mean things to you, he should have defiantly stood up for you.
I would be very careful and since she wants him back I would make sure that this stops . Anytime you make him mad, he is going to have her to fall back on. You do not need that. Actually, thinking about it now, I would tell him stop talking to her or you will leave him.. He sounds guilty to me lol.
2006-10-24 05:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what they all say anyway, that there is nothing going on between them and their ex. You cannot understand what they discuss that they never finish discussing. They will alway chat when they meet each other either in public or in private.
It is possible he has something to do with her but might not be cheating. So if you still love him then please have a chat with him in a very calm tone to sought out your differences.
I wish all the best
2006-10-24 05:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bet the farm on this one! The fact that he's already hidden important information from you, and more importantly, the fact that he did not confront her with you standing by his side, shows that he's probably catering to her advances......he just might be trying to get some "freebies" from her for old time's sake. Either way, he's not giving you your place in this matter, and I believe that a man should show his g/f or wife the respect and the place she deserves in his personal and social life.
If he's not willing to do that, and continues to bring on the cheap excuses......it's time for YOU to make the decision about your own place in your own life. I hope it works for the better!
Best of Luck!
2006-10-24 05:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Ralph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more power to you. your not crazy, if you doubt your bf fidelity then you should consider talking to him about the problem.his ex. tell him that you feel uncomfortable about her being around him. it seems like the ex's wants him back. to bad he's yours. he's your man so no hold on to him. if she wants him back she's going to try anything she can to get back with him. to bad they broke up and now you guys are 2gether. he obviously wants you no her or else you guys wouldn't had moved in together. he loves you not her. if she keeps bugging you.tell her off. tell her that he's your man not hers. yeah she had him once but that was a thing of the past. nothing she can do is going to make him stop loving you. and if he really does love you, tell him that you don't him talking to his ex.
2006-10-24 05:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust a liar. I'm sorry to say that, but don't waste your life. There are honest, loving, trust-worthy guys out there that wouldn't dare talk to ex's. Think about it, pray about it, do the right thing.
2006-10-24 05:24:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wanted to say bye to her! That takes alot of nerve... He knows that you are figuring it all out and so now he's turning it around making you look like your a NUT...He's hiding stuff from you and your suppose to be "OK" with it..that's bull..Eventually he will screw up somewhere...If I was you I'd sit his *** down and have a long talk with him tell him you don't appreciate it and what not..You shouldn't have to worry yourself sick wondering if he's talking to her or hiding stuff from you... Tell yourself that the next time you find something out that he hides or what not leave his *** ...
2006-10-24 05:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by xcura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as your man he should do things to make you comfortable. Like switching up the places the two of you go so that she cant pop up. He should let her know in front of you that it over between the two of them so that everyone is clear. I'm glad you did not wait outside for him, i wouldnt have either. Dont accuse him of cheating until you have hard evidence. If you do just wait until you are absolutly ready for it to be over
2006-10-24 05:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by alphasweet06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋