I have been knowing this guy for a few months. I met him at work and we would have lunch and stuff together everyday and text and call back and forth. Well he got laid-off and I broke up with my boyfriend the same day, so we had sex that night. He has gotten a new job since then guys... A good one... Anyway, we talk or text often, both initiating the calls and he sometimes says things that make me feel like he's feeling me out. We have had sex quite a few times since then, but he's also spent the night and not had sex with me on several occasions. He I am new to this whole single thing and I don't want to just come out and ask him too soon and push him away. How could I tell him that I don't want to just have sex with him without making it seem like I am giving him an altimatum? Does he really like me?
2006-10-24 05:14:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What's wrong with your getting an answer on his intentions? If he is just in it for the sex, you need to know. Apparently you have aspirations of expanding the relationship past the sex, so get him to fess up.
2006-10-24 05:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Doug R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that old saying about why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free? I don't know your age or his, but it's likely that if you tell him you want him to make more of an effort to do things with you outside of sex, he'll disappear. That's just my experience. You might get lucky and have met a truly good guy who isn't just in it for the sex, but you won't know unless you ask....try small things like seeing a movie or going out to dinner. Now's a great time since you don't work together anymore too. Good luck!
2006-10-24 12:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there something WRONG with this current situation? You know if he really likes you or not. The fact that he stayed over with you without sex tells me he's not using you. Don't push it. Let your relationship evolve as it will.
2006-10-24 12:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by hess_man31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you should make him choose how he wants to have you. You should also let him know that his answer will determine if he'll ever have sex with you again.
2006-10-24 12:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you just for sex because , i hate to say it to you but you are an easy lay, you give it to him without any work on his part and if you really want to ask him , ask him you got nothing to lose but everything to gain!
2006-10-24 12:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a spine - Honey right now all you are to him is a booty call. Stick up for yourself and ask for what you want.
2006-10-24 12:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he likes you. Now stop playing games and be with him!
2006-10-24 12:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he likes you, so don't ask any silly questions about the relationship, you are in one, ok. He's dating you only.
2006-10-24 12:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your story smacks of you being his toy. I would confront him, but my instinct would be to DROP him.
2006-10-24 12:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by plitsmay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to ask him yourself . we r not god to answer all this question plus your question is quit confusing.
2006-10-24 12:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋