Ok so you've been casually hanging out with a guy for the last 3 months and he randomly kisses you. Three weeks later he tells you it's you, and it's only ever been you. He says he doesn't have much to offer, asks if you want to come hang out at his place that night. you say no b/c you're sick, but another time. Next week he's busy with something legitmate for work. You chat briefly via email, and invite him out with friends casually, leaving it open ended ex/ "if you're up for it, we're doing this. If interested, here's my number." You never hear anything.
I guess my question is this a big deal? Does it mean he's suddenly not interested, or something else was coming up, or he hates phones? Is he just looking for sex? If someone tells you that you're basically that you're it, then fails to follow up, how do you take that? Am I reading something wrong here?
2006-10-24 05:10:59 · 14 answers · asked by bleeding sun 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may be right with all of your explanations. I know that doesn't necessarily help you. Perhaps he felt somewhat snubbed after declaring his feelings then you didn't go over to his place (because you were sick). Even though your situation may have been genuine, I know of a lot of other women who use the 'I'm sick' response rather that just saying 'no thanks'. It therefore can create cynical thought patterns in a guy when they hear this response from a woman in reply to a legitimate invitation. A perceived rejection can be reason enough for not following up, in order to prevent a repeat scenario.
However, on balance with your description and the fact he made a point of saying he didn't not having a lot to offer, I wonder whether the invitation was sexually motivated. Like, if there's nothing to do, then what exactly would you be doing??...and at night time? Some guys may see this as the 'go' signal. After all, (in his mind) there wasn't any other reason why you'd be coming over....he had already made that clear. Therefore...she must be keen for sex!!
Believe me, there are guys who naturally think this way.
There is always a probability that this is a hopelessly wrong assessment of your situation though. So it's always good to give the benefit of the doubt to someone else. It may be worth persevering with letting him know you'd like to meet up in a social setting or with friends etc. If he's interested in you like he said he was, then he won't keep finding a reason for not catching up with you. Keep an open mind though as his reasons up to this point may be totally genuine.
2006-10-24 05:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Pseudo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not serious, and it's more like casual friends maybe...and perhaps a little benefits? There's no spark. If you don't call him you probably won't hear from him. If you call him, he'd get together if he doesn't have anything else going on. If you're looking for a relationship, he's not the one. You'll know if you find someone who is intereted. This guy is not.
2006-10-24 05:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by sweeta : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i can see this being two things. One he was just looking for sex. there are some jerks still out there that pull that kind of crap and i can see it as He is hurt bc you blew him off yes i understand you where sick but did you make sure to tell him that as much as you where feeling him you where really sick at that moment and didnt really want to ruin the moment by getting sick all over him?
2006-10-24 05:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by starrmerlan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're completely being blown off................ you had a great time, yet he grew to become into searching for sparks that he of course did no longer get or locate with you. i'm sorry, it seems such as you relatively liked him and honestly rejoiced in his provides. i wish you permit pass and finally end up a guy that does sense a similar............. this guy is making an attempt to be spectacular by way of no longer responding in any respect........... permit him be spectacular approximately it and you pass on your thank you to greater effective men............... stable success and blessed be.
2016-11-25 02:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he thinks you blew him off with the being sick thing. Be straight with him. The best way to find out is to ask him: Are you still interested in me or am I wasting me time here?
2006-10-24 05:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that was weeks ago and he hasnt said or done anything, then i would just ask him what is the deal. Dont let him sense you are trying to force anything. Then may back away seriously
2006-10-24 05:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by alphasweet06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds like he said those things in order to get sex, then when you didn't come over you weren't an easy and quick enough "mark", so now he's looked elsewhere.
2006-10-24 05:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anna S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could really go either way the only person that can answer for sure is him. Ask him what's up and see what happens from there
2006-10-24 05:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't expect too much from this guy, he just wants some sex and then bye=bye.. if you don't want to be a one night stand kind of lady go get yourself another guyand don't even think of this guy in whatever thing that he said to you!
2006-10-24 05:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look just ask him what his problem is. or when he does start to come back around, then just start doing him like he did u, and then he'll get mad and want to spend every minute wiht you.
2006-10-24 05:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋