I got drunk with some friends and ended up having sex with a good friend of mine. I feel like it may make things akward and I don't know if I should talk with her about it... what should I do?
2006-10-24 04:56:23 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't need to hear about the STD and pregnancy stuff. I'm a paramedic and I know how that stuff works...
2006-10-24 05:02:17 · update #1
Keep in mind that she was there too... it's not like you got into this mess alone. And I've been there, I've done just that. And funny enough, he's my best friend to this day (after years!)... If she was drunk, there's a strong possibility that she feels just as awkward as you do at this moment. have the two of you talk out exactly what you expect to happen from now onwards, i'm sure the two of you will want the same things... and in 10 years, you might be able to laugh about it... just don't read into it too much (we hate it when guys do this!) cause you'll freak her out... good luck!
2006-10-24 05:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by Rednr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Got Drunk And Had Sex
2016-12-12 03:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by declue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep you've changed the dynamic -- but it doesn't have to be a friendship end-er.
Awkward or not you should talk when both parties are ready and come to an understanding as to whether you remain friends.
I've made the same choice myself with several of my friends over the years and it's only been a real problem once ... see we disagreed on the concepts of 'love at first sight' vis a vis 'psychobabe fixation'. Awkward was an excellent description.
Hopefully you won't have this issue and will be able to resolve things amciably. It's even been a source of fond memories for seeral of us as time has gone by.
2006-10-24 05:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what you would normally do... If you call and talk, then call and talk. If you go do stuff together, then arrange to go do something.
If it needs talking about the opportunity will arise if you let it and honesty can happen without a major uncomfortable scene. When you get together, if either of you is uncomfortable, bring up the topic and let her know how much fun you had, but that her friendship is important to you. You may find out that it was just a fun interlude for her too and something you can laugh about later. Sometimes comfort taken in the arms of a good friend is just that.
2006-10-24 05:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by toastposties 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sticky situation....damn beer/liq. It happends and when your drunk feeling of someone does come out. Maybe you really wanted to get with her but though about messing up ur relationship when you were sober....so when you got drunk and the situation was some what right, you went for it without thinking. Now you relize you acted and wish you could take it back...The only logical thing to do now, is to talk to her slowly, she may feel the same way as u, and u ignoring the situation is adding fuel to the fire. Try to rebuild, before the oppertunity is gone.
2006-10-24 05:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by csabrinam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better have a frank discussion about the matter. Any chance of STD or AIDS? Did you use a condom? Other protection? If you need to plan on a second job to pay child support for the next 18 years it would be good to find out about it now, too.
2006-10-24 04:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you see her...feel her out. See if she is acting strange too. She might have the same feeling you are having. Just tell...about the other night...well....and then tell her that you didn't mean for it to go as far as it did. Make sure she knows that you value her friendship and you don't want to loose it. Good luck!
2006-10-24 05:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man and talk with her about it. It's the only way you two will get past any awkwardness that may arise from what you did. Who knows, it just might make your relationship even stronger.
2006-10-24 04:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by Red1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH OH!!!! things are not going to be the same again.Do talk to her about it.But give her some space and don't you say that you are sorry....Man the meaning will be twisted...Just apologize to her saying that you were weak or something caught up in the moment that's ALL YOU SAY.Don't go into detailed explanations. All the best!!!!You need it
2006-10-24 05:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Specky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on and talk to her. It will be awkward at first but she must of wonted it as well. Don't lose a good friend over this.
2006-10-24 04:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by Beast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋