me and my girlfriend, of over 2 years now, both of us deeply in love, in fact we are about to be engaged;meaning i'm about to propose, are having sexual problems. about a year ago we use to do sexual activities almost every day then we started having relationship problems. we started to argue and not get along, only to find out what we were arguing abut was easily fixed, hence us being happier now then we ever was. however, when we split up and seen other people, sadly to see we each slept with another person just to try to rebound off of the hard break up. it was sex for ALL the WRONG reasons. happy to say we both realized what we done was wrong and we couldnt stand to be without each other and after about 1 month we got back 2gether and worked everything out. since then we havent been happier and we have one of the best relaionships there is. however since this we cant seem to have sex with each other b/c we hate seeing each other w/ someone else..? what can i or we do to fix this?
2006-10-24 04:32:22 · 14 answers · asked by p_engr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stay celibate until marriage
2006-10-24 04:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this time that you guys are back together are you or her seeing some one else? If yes then you should think more seriously about getting married because being married is not about dating and breaking up everytime you feel like it. This is a committment between the two of you and it will be hard for both of you. If your not seeing anyone else or her then talk really serious about getting married because if you get into an arguement it's not about leaving and then sleeping with another girl or guy in her situation, it's about getting through it and fixing your problem no matter how bad the situation is. Marriage is not easy but if you think your ready think about it really serious and it's for forever, not just a pass by to see if it'll work or to have her by your side all the time. She will need space for her self and also for yourself. You will need alot of TRUST, RESPECT, COMMUNICATON AND CONFIDENCE in each other
2006-10-24 04:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by shy_gal2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, Im not sure which will get over the fact first but as a woman... as a realistic woman, Id say " we both F*ked up, we both dont want that, so lets deal with it, forget about, and make us work" As the man you need to admit, forget and move on. She slept with another dude k? but I did too. and AS that woman I let me tell you something and you may be able to relate. She is way too worried about you thinkin about her with another dude, while you two are having sex, and that mental picture for her sux. Here she is trying to have sex with her man and all she can think about is if you are thinkin about her and him, No one can Get-off to that!!! Thats why I say you have to admit that you did it and she did it and you two are over it! Then you two have to forget it. Come up with some new moves that you guys have never even seen before and just do it. Keep eye contact while youre having sex so you both know who you are thinking about... make love to her. Make eachother feel that what you two are experiencing is the most incredible thing you have ever done in your entire life. And it couldnt be any better because youre with the only one you love.While in that fantasy world you both will relize that its not a fantasy, its the love between you that gets your fires goin you know what I mean. Sleeping with other is something hard to get over but its possible. What you have to do is basically drown it out, the pain. Dont ponder on it, make passionate sex full of groping and moaning and grabbing and biting and suck.... well you get the pic dude and just think about how hot that was instead. Seeing her be so sexy should spark you two and also leave both of you with the most amazing day dreams too. good luck
2006-10-24 04:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by raylenejade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The both of you have created a wedge between you. The problem is that neither one of you has gotten past the fact that you slept with someone else. This is a tuffy some serious discussion is needed between the 2 of you,if you can't agree to forgive and forget then I suggest that both of you throw in the towel. Its never the same once you croos that line.
2006-10-24 04:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by Renee F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? You can't have sex with the woman you love just because she did the same thing you did? You're both stupid. Don't propose yet either. Have a nice long talk, explore your feelings and get over what happened in the past! So what!? If you both love eachother, why your you both punishing each other?
2006-10-24 04:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer supply up in this. It looks like yall are meant to be jointly. i think of it's going to easily take a while for you the two to recover from it. while my ex cheated on me, I had a complicated time getting over it, yet I did after some month or so. you basically could make love. enable all those different issues flow, and in simple terms make love. forget approximately approximately each little thing else. You 2 have been by a no longer elementary time and yet you're nevertheless jointly.
2016-10-16 08:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by benavidez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well brandon, since im your girlfriend, dont you think you should come to ME with these questions?
is it so wrong for me to NOT want to have sex anymore because maybe i have grown up and feel it would be more special after we have tied the knot?
is it so wrong that maybe since we used to fool around almost everyday in the past that i may be burnt out on it for a while and not want to do anything?
is it so wrong that maybe i still havent gotten over all that youve said and done to me and i dont want to be that close to you right now?
youre a damn grown man. dont get on yahoo and ask other people about our problems when we are the only ones with the answers about eachother.
really now.... think about it!
jessie
2006-10-26 08:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by jess s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get over it. you both realize that what you did was wrong. right? so whats the problem here? you can't live in the past, this is the woman you love, the woman your about to MARRY. put what happened behind you...it won't be easy but don't sit there and dwell on it all the time.
2006-10-24 04:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by *HEiDi!* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to try different things in the bedroom. This is about the time that all relationships have problems with sex. Bring in some new and exotic oils, massage her and just romance her.
2006-10-24 04:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have talk with each other and start all over including the sex.
2006-10-24 04:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by Ankit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get engaged for one! Find a couples therapist to help you work out your issues.
2006-10-24 04:35:34 · answer #11 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋