In Feb of 2005 I moved out on my own. A church group of young teenaged girls that I taught at the church gave me a housewarming party at our church community building. I got lots of gifts from the ladies of the church for my new home. Now, almost 2 years later - I am getting married this dec! the ladies of the church are giving me a bridal shower at the church and inviting people from the community as well. Do you think this is wrong since i already had a housewarming in feb 2005? i feel so bad , but i would love to have a bridal shower lol. what do u think?
2006-10-24 04:28:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Absolutely it is fine!! A housewarming and Bridal shower are two different celebrations. The whole idea of the bridal shower started when a father refused to give his daughter a dowry to marry the poor man she loved because he didn't approve of a poor smith for his daughter. So all the women got together and showered the bride with all the things she would need to start a new life with her chosen groom. They are showering you (and your groom) with all the things families need. This is the time when you get good quality, top of the line things so that (hopefully) they will last through out your marriage and when you have your child's fiance over you can tell her or him that these plates (etc . . . ) were a gift and you have used them throughout your marriage. Get the things that you will still have and will be in good condition years down the road when you are teaching your children to cook. Please enjoy this, You only get one shower! I wish you both nothing but happiness!
2006-10-24 04:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by nuschka16 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your shower. It was really sweet of your Bible School teenagers to have a housewarming party for you at the church, and it was nice of them to invite the ladies of the church to attend.
Now, the ladies of the church want to do something to celebrate your upcoming marriage and give you a bridal shower. Let them. This is something they obviously want to do or they would have just stepped aside and waited to see if your teenagers would step in and host the shower.
There may be some people on the guest list who feel that they've "already given." If so, I'm sure that, given your concern about this, you'll understand if they choose not to attend or to give a small, token gift.
2006-10-24 04:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Le Miccine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad at all. If you told them you didn't want a bridal shower they would be insulted. The housewarming and bridal shower are two different (and happy) occassions. Also, naturally you won't register for things that you received for your housewarming. Plus, two years is plenty long. You wouldn't feel bad if two years from now you have a baby shower would you? Congrats and good luck.
2006-10-24 04:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by Tara P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. The ladies from the church apparently are doing this for you out of the kindness of their hearts so enjoy. I would make sure you thank them like you did for the housewarming.
2006-10-24 05:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
housewarming and a bridal shower are 2 very different things! Enjoy it if they want to throw you one! You would do it for any of them too, wouldn't you?! You are lucky to have people who care about you and who want to celebrate with you!!! Congratulations!
2006-10-24 04:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel bad about it then dont have it, but it isnt wrong that they want to throw you a bridal shower.
2006-10-24 04:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong at all. They are two totally different things. Besides if you did not ask them to throw you one-that would be rude- and they offered then enjoy yourself. They wouldn't offered if they did not want to throw you a party. This is a big event.
2006-10-24 04:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by CGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope it is not wrong these occasions are two seperate things . let the ladies give you this it will make them happy and make them feel usefull. I hope you will have a great time and congrats to you. Good luck and god bless.
2006-10-24 08:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are blessed to know such generous people.
Have the shower, it's your special day.
2006-10-24 05:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they want to throw you one, it means they like you. Don't feel bad, enjoy and congratulations.
2006-10-24 04:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋