I went with my girlfriends for a couple of drinks. I invited a co-worker (male) to introduce him to my friend. I thought they would hit it off. Turns out he is interested in me and keeps asking me to go out. Problem is I'm in a commited relationship with my bf. This co-worker knows this. I have made it clear that I will not go out with him. He just came by my office and asked me to go out tonight. I politely declined. My question is do I tell my bf about this or let it die down? I want to tell him but my sister tells me just to let it fix it self. But I feel like I'm lying to him. Need your help please!
2006-10-24 03:58:29 · 17 answers · asked by to_sassy4_u 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with your sister...I feel like you are handling the situation like you are supposed to. If the co worker refuses to take the hint then you need to decide if you should keep things strictly proffesional with him, because it seems as if he doesn't respect what you are saying and how you feel. I believe yhat by telling your boyfriend the situation will just cause drama to unfold and it's really uneccessary since you are doing the right thing already. You are not lying to your boyfriend....just let your co worker know that you value your relationship with your man and that although he has an interest in you....you don't see him like that...
2006-10-24 04:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by lovelylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to tell. Just because this guy keeps asking you out, you are not going, so you aren't cheating on your b/f. Don't be so polite to the co-worker the next time. Tell him flat out, that you are in a committed relationship and he should not ask you again. Tell him you only invited him for drinks because you thought he'd like your friend. Telling your b/f will only make him jealous and angry with you, maybe. Let it be, but get straight with the co-worker. No more politeness.
2006-10-24 11:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, telling the person youa re with only causes problems. Especially if he is a jealous man. And unfortunetly, if you are in a commited relationship, it would be hard to believe he wouldn't get jealous.
My advice to you: Keep it to yourself, unless you plan on allot of comments & undertones. It is not worth getting your bf upset, especially if you have no intentions of acting....
Good Luck!
2006-10-24 11:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong and aren't married so other guys are "allowed" to ask you out so sure tell your bf, have a laugh about it and tell him that he is all the man you want. If he doesn't want other guys to ask you out he should buy you a ring.
2006-10-24 11:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by medic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are not doing anything with this guy and you are honestly declining him you should keep it to yourself.But, on the other hand, this character may try or do something that could put you in harms way so, is this something that you want to tell.
You did try to do something for some one else and he is now bothering you. TELL HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
2006-10-24 11:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Natural 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why feel guilty since you have done nothing with this guy. You just were trying to fix him up with your friend. I'd just continue what your doing such as saying no when he asks you and I'm sure he'll eventually stop asking you.
2006-10-24 11:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of telling your bf, you have to clarify this to your colleague. Bcoz this issue is with your co worker, dont involve your bf.
2006-10-24 11:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend, cause you should. if something like that happened to him you would want to know. Tell him because it's the right thing to do. Tell your coworker that you are commited and that if he continues you will file a sexual harassment complaint against him.
2006-10-24 11:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by Ankit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him b/c if this guy doesn't give up and this gets out of hand then yourb/f will find out and then u look bad, guys get scared very easyly and they tend to think of the worse he might thinkthat you are trying to hide something from him, so it can become a messy situstion, trust me.
2006-10-24 11:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by Smooth1221 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry. i suggest u remain quiet 'coz u r not cheating him. the co-wrker came up himself. so there is nothing u did. the problem will clear after some time
2006-10-24 11:02:08 · answer #10 · answered by princessriddhi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋