2006-10-24 03:58:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk about your fantasies, ask her hers first that way she'll be more receptive to want you have to say. (if your in a relationship)
Just remember though if you do both decide to go for it, you may not actually like the reality.
Are you prepared for the fact that you could split up over it. As a lot of emotions are played out during sex especially jealousy.
2006-10-24 04:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Honey, have you ever had any fantasies about sex with other people?" And let it go from there. They may have had the same fantasy but been too timid to tell you about it because they are worried how you will react, just like you're worried how your partner will react. And judging from some of the uneducated answers by others to similar questions on Yahoo! Answers I understand why you'd worry.
After you broach the subject be open to questions and be prepared to explain why you want to. If it is just to get more action, than you're better off forgetting it now. If you want to fulfill your partner's fantasies while living out your own, then you are on the right track. Also be prepared for your partner to possibly get their feelings hurt like they are not enough for you (common there on Yahoo! Answers judging from all the "why would you disrespect your partner like that" answers). If your partner says "no" than drop it. Coercion will just anger them. If they are open to discussion just take it slow and talk. Don't make it the only topic of discussion. And be prepared to hear your partner out about their fantasies and don't be judgmental of them.
Any subject SHOULD be open to discussion in a relationship, but once again, judging by the reactions to sexual fantasy questions here, I doubt many of these people have really functional relationships, they just think they are. It's amazing how afraid people are to be open and honest with the one person that is supposed to love them unquestionabley. Of course this probably comes from experience when they bare their feelings about issues and their partner recoils in disgust and berates them for thinking that way. I'll bet their best friends know them better than their spouse. What a sad way to have a relationship.
And lastly, don't "make it a coincidence" or manipulate the situation to make it happen "unexpectedly". This is where problems of jealousy and distrust arise. I can guarantee that virtually everybody who says they've done it and it was terrible had it happen in this manner.
Communication is key. Before it ever happens talk about who, what, where, why, and how. And when you think you've covered all the bases; talk some more. Incredible, open, conversation is the way to make it happen and have it be something that the two of you will want to do again.
2006-10-26 18:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you want another woman to join you and your partner to make it a threesome. That's what men usually want.
You could introduce this topic to your partner by getting her to watch with you threesome porn scenes. If she enjoys watching this kind of scenes, then your suggestion to try it out in real life won't be such a shock for her. And she may agree.
But if she can't stand watching this kind of porn scenes, then don't even suggested it to her. She definitely will say no to you. And you can end up being in a onesome instead of in a threesome.
2006-10-24 04:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try the old faithful, ' I've got this friend and he wants to ask his girlfriend if she'd be up for a threesome but he's not sure how to ask, what do you think?' then two weeks later when the conversations forgotten, put the suggestion into action on your better half!
hahahahahahah !
2006-10-24 04:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Chey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your setting yourself up for a big disappointment and some serious backlash.It will only be a fantasy until you live it.News flash,you aren't going to be the center of attention for the night,and you might create a monster.
2006-10-24 04:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only way to broach the subject is just to come out with it! Come on its not as if you're shy if you want a threesome!
2006-10-24 04:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by cheekimadam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lot of alcohol helps. The other 2 involved should think they know but the other doesn't.So they think they are hoodwinking each other.Be prepared to walk away alone in the morning, never to talk about your night of debauchery ever again.(APART FROM ON HERE)
2006-10-24 04:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
discuss it in private and come to an agreement thats the only way - good luck
2006-10-24 04:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you suggest a threesome with another man? im sure you'll be surprised with her acceptance!!! xx
2006-10-24 04:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them, 'whats your fantasy?' hopefully she should ask you what yours is and then broach the subject, but be gentle, you may make them feel inadequate
2006-10-24 04:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by GeorgieP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋