why does my girlfriend have to know where i am 24 hours aday?

Question

i've always been a good boy never been unfaithful in 7 years but as soon as im 10 minutes late somewhere or dont answer my phone within 10 seconds i get accused of allsorts its starting to p*** me off

Answer 1

okay you guys have been together for 7years k? She is probably feeling a little self conscience being with you for so long. She is probably thinking why me? because 7 years is a long time with one person, maybe you have distanced yourself a little no? well whatever it is she feels that she is not good enough for you and that you want something more and by calling it just asures her that you are where you are, it could just be a phase for her I dont know, try talking to her and letting her that you love her and thing are still the same. See woman, after being with a man for so long get the feeling like their man wants something different now, you know? and maybe she feels that you are one of those men. If thats not true just let her know and make sure she understands you

Answer 2

Sounds like either:

You give the impression somewhere along the line that you have cheated on other girlfriends in the past or

Someone is spinning her a line about you or

She is feeling guilty about something and it's making her feel insecure or

She's got too much time on her hands.

Try heading her off at the pass by phoning her as soon as you know you're going to be later than planned. If you are in a meeting or somewhere with poor reception or you will not hear the phone ring, ring/text to tell her before she tries to call you. If you get in there first it is likely that you will sound less p---ed off than if she's called you. This will allay her worries and make it seem more like you are concerned for her feelings.

Then she needs to find a job or a hobby or something so that she is less interested in exactly what and where and who you are doing because time will pass quicker and she will feel less insecure, bored and lonely.

Answer 3

Sorry, seems as though she doesnt trust you, or she is insecure about the relatonship, talk to her about this because it bothers you, and you two need to talk about this, she shouldnt have to know what you are doing or where you are at 24 hours, let her know, that you will never hurt her, and it is ok to miss a phone call, ur not perfect tell her how you feel and to ease her wries, maybe you should call her when you are being late and say babe, Im going to need an extra 10 or 1 mintues, traffic is razy or babe dont expect me ontime onight because of work, or even cal her once in awhile when she least expects it, and tell her you are thinkn about her. She must be worried about losing you, and i had that problem and now my b/f reassures me, and it work, it has also given us a stronger trust and committment within our relationship. God bless I hope this works babe!

Answer 4

she sound insucure. If you have been together for 7 years and not married, that could be one of the issiues, no commitment. Try calling her everytime your gonna be late or running late. It is better than her calling and making you mad, and it will let her know you do not want her worried. Another thing, ask her if not getting married is a problem. The answer might supprise you. Talking to her is the key to your anser though. 7b years is a long time to waste over something so small as just talking.

Answer 5

lol "but sweetheart I worry.." sorry...if she really has no reason to suspect you're unfaithful then you'll have to sit her down and explain to her that you love her and are loyal to only her. Also, that you both have a unique bond that no one can break. You want to know that she trusts you and believes in you and has confidence in you and when she calls and you don't answer or have to call her back or you're late somewhere that she can let it go 'cause sometimes that's just life but you're hers. If she doesn't understand this then idk...kinda odd she started this after 7yrs...did something major happen if so then perhaps this is just a phase. gl

Answer 6

She is insecure. You need to tell her how this makes you feel and that things cannot go on this way. Dont make an argument out of it. Sit her down and have an adult conversation. She will be more likely to listen. Tell her you dont like living walking on eggshells in fear that something you are gonna do is gonna make her angry. It isnt fair for her to treat you this way since you have given her no reason to make her think she couldnt trust you. Tell her she is pulling you apart. You may have no intention of leaving, but maybe the little threat of it may get her to open her eyes.

Answer 7

Sounds like she has insecurity problems herself. I can understand that getting on your nerves - if you were ever unfaithful to her I can see her being like that - but if what you say is true and you have not been, and as long as you are not consistently late, etc...then I would definitely try to talk to her about this and explain to her how you feel so she can get the obvious emotional help she needs.

Answer 8

I'm going to hazard a guess here & say your g/f either doesn't work or works but not as many hours as you so she's left sitting on her own wondering what you're getting up to, if I'm wrong then she is just insecure & you need to help her with that, invite her out with your friends or just the 2 of you, spend more time with her, all she needs is reassurance!

Answer 9

You, my friend, should find yourself a woman to date. Girls are not in your league. When a woman begins acting as this one does, then it's time to bail out. That situation will only worsen. Feelings of insecurity seem to grow as bad weeds do. Faster than one can control them. She has probably been hurt before and it's natural for the heart to be a little apprehensive, but it's not fair for her to judge you based on past failures. Good luck with Miss Insecure.

Answer 10

She probably either has a history of cheating on her boyfriends (cheaters seem to ALWAYS think others are cheating on them) or a history of being cheating on. Either way, if you've put in 7 years of faithfulness and she's still not able to trust, you need to bail. Life is too darn short for you to waste any more of it on someone who's got that kind of a problem.