Have You Ever Lost Your Bestfriend Before?

Question

I lost my bestfriend, my baby just over a month ago and I'm wondering how long does it take for the pain to subside? How long does it take for raths grasp on your heart to let go? It hasn't been letting go of mine, well only a very little bit maybe.
I just miss him so much, my dog was in our family since before I was born. He got put to sleep at the age of 16 1/2 years old. All I want to do is to be able to hug him and kiss him and smell his beautiful smell again. He was the best dog in the world, he was my baby my bestfriend. I love him so much that if I ever had to chose between a human friend and my dog I would chose him in a instant.

So any suggestons on how to help get over the pain?
Thanks!

I do know that I will see him again one day when I pass on, but it's hard, it's hard to wake up every morning and him not being there. I mean I did everything for him and I mean everything. I fed him I walked him I brushed him. And in his last week when he was sick I carried him outside. I gave him his pills. I loved to do everything for him, because he truly was like a baby to me, I know sounds silly coming from a 15 year old, but he was.

I do already have 2 new dogs, one my fmaily and I adopted the other a foster. They do help and destract me, but the do NOT replace him that I know.

And I do know that his passing was for the best because he's now in no pain. He's happy again. During his last week he was not happy. And he was always ahppy guy, so I do know that it was for the best, but it's still hard. But I guess in time it won't hurt as much, but I will never forget him over get over him, because he's my baby and who forgets their children? Whether they pass or not.
He will be in my heart for now and ever more.

Mayb you rest in peace my sweet, sweet boy.

Answer 1

First of all, I am sorry for your loss. Just remember, all dogs go to heaven :)
About how to get over the pain? Honey, it just takes time. It is just like any other heart break in your life. You will never forget your baby, but it will get easier.

I lost my baby Nina about a year ago, but she was living at my parents and I had moved out. We shared the same birthday and got her when I was 11 years old. I am now 25 and miss her, but have puppies of my own now and though they have not replaced her, I love them just as much, you know?
It will just take time....

Answer 2

I wish I could tell you that the pain will go away. With time, you will get busy and have lots of other things going on in your life. But whenever something reminds you of your dog, the pain will still be there. Here is something that may make you feel a little better, though.

RAINBOW BRIDGE

Just this side of heaven
is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies
that has been especially close
to someone here,
that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.

There are meadows and hills
for all of our special friends
so they can run and play together.

There is plenty of food, water and sunshine,
and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old
are restored to health and vigor;
those who were hurt or maimed
are made whole and strong again,
just as we remember them
in our dreams of days and times gone by.

The animals are happy and content,
except for one small thing:
they each miss someone very special to them,
who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together,
but the day comes when one suddenly stops
and looks into the distance.
His bright eyes are intent;
his eager body quivers.
Suddenly he begins to run from the group,
flying over the green grass,
his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted,
and when you and your special friend finally meet,
you cling together in joyous reunion,
never to be parted again.
The happy kisses rain upon your face;
your hands again caress the beloved head,
and you look once more
into the trusting eyes of your pet,
so long gone from your life
but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Here is a site with "Rainbow Bridge" set beautifully to music:

http://www.indigo.org/rainbowbridge_ver2.html

Answer 3

I'm sorry for your loss. I had to put my "baby" down over 4 years ago. What you're feeling is very normal. Over time, it will get easier. I still think of her often, but it doesn't hurt like before. Some people find getting another pet helps the healing. You are not replacing your friend by doing that. I found a dog, that at first reminded me so much of her personality, but as I got to know him better, I realized he wasn't much like her at all and I was able to think of her in a different way. I always think of how good they would have gotten along. It was almost as if she was giving me her approval from beyond. I know it doesn't help (and I'm sure everyone else is already saying it), but time will heal your heart. Have you read "Rainbow Bridge"? That poem helped me a lot.

Answer 4

I had to put my horse to sleep last year. I had him for 12 years and he got sick suddenly. I had to be the one to decide to put him down. I was so upset when the vet got there that I was hyper-ventilating. I couldn't even stay for the procedure. It has been 18 months and 9 days and I still wish I could have him back.

All I can say is that time lessens the pain. Mine still hasn't gone away although you learn to deal with it. I still cry sometimes when I think about him. I have lots of pictures of him.

I also got another horse but it's not the same. They are completely different creatures and I appreciate my new horse for his quirks and habits. You can never replace them and you will never forget them.

Here's a poem about the loss of a dog:

Her Journey's Just Begun

Don't think of her as gone away-
her journey has just begun
life holds many facets
the Earth is only one

Just think of her as resting
from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years

Think how she must be wishing
that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away

And think of her as living
In the hearts of those she touched
For nothing loved is ever lost-
And she was loved so much.

- Ellen Brenneman

Answer 5

You will always have a tug at your heart when it comes to your sweet baby...It was 3 months after I had to put my 15 1/2 yr old dog to sleep before I could even say his name or talk about him without tearing up...
Everyone is different, and be patient with others that don't understand your depth of feeling for this dog. Some people don't understand how a pet can mean more than people. Just know that there are many, many people that DO understand, and give yourself time.

Answer 6

It depends on the person. Everyone is different. I'm sorry for your loss. Maybe you can find comfort in the fact that he is no longer suffering. Putting a dog down is an extremely hard decision for most pet owners and I'm sure you did the right thing.

To the poster who made the comment about a "real baby", dogs are about as real as it gets. Dogs are what they are and they make no apologies for it. Just because they aren't human, doesn't mean they aren't "real". What a horrible comment to make to someone who just lost their beloved pet.

Answer 7

I am sorry for your loss.
Lossing your best friend is very hard.
I had mine put to sleep when his cancer became so bad he no longer wanted to eat. It was time but that did not make it any easier.
I cried for months. It took me a long time. I have his ashes in an urn in my china cabinet with his collar. When I die his ashes will be scattered with mine.
I still miss him and it has been years but now I can talk about him and remember how much fun I had with him and the things we did together and not feel so empty.
It will take time for you and no one really knows how long as each person is different. But it will get easier.
Once again I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Hi hun yes I lost my soulmate today and iI am lost..my babes of 11 years some say oh you get over it I dont think you ever do..the empty space the pain on your heart
the longing to be able to hold them again
I know your pain but cannot answer the question..
I guess time and memories take us to a different phase of hurting and one day I think we find our babes again and then we are happy
But now its just empty space full of pain and longing
I want my boy back to
just hold on tight and dont let go...hold on to every precious moment you shared forever
thinking of you and shareing pain.

Answer 10

it takes a while to feel whole again..the hurt is so bad now ;but it will get better. think of all the times you 2 were together;and how you laughed when your dog did somethind funny.... thank god that you had all the good years with baby and knew her love always.... baby will always be with you in spirt........