And when I say be be there I mean in the room watching the baby being born !!!
Personally I would be in the corridor or down the pub. Not being funny what good am i going to do being there and personally it would be like something out of aliens ( horrific ). Why cant babys just be delivered by storks.
2006-10-24 03:41:30 · 29 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'll be there in the room but not watching right at it. it's something that i have to do; and be able to say that i was there when my child was born. no selfish act of this will cause ill feeling. things in life that we have to sacrifice to have the lasting memory. this is the time where we have to be self effacing.
2006-10-24 03:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, not being there for my daughter's birth would have been the biggest mistake in my life. You need to be there. Not only to see your child being born, but also to support your wife. You will regret this for the rest of your life you are not there. Plus, what happens if your wife has complications? Who will be there for support? Or if the child has complications? And what will you tell your child when they get older, "Oh I was at the pub because I didn't think your birth was important." That will make them feel real special won't it?
2006-10-24 10:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by davinm23 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok, i know this was a question for guys but i thought id answer anyway..............personally i would be devastated and extremely hurt if the father of my baby wasnt at the birth, id need support and it shouldnt be something the woman should go through alone, you both made the baby so you should both be there when its born!! also, you say you think its 'horrific', well just think how women feel..............they actually have to go through all that pain and exhaustion, all you have to do is be there for them and give them support. if you cant do that then you shouldnt even be thinking of being a dad, coz you clearly arent mature and responsible enough.
2006-10-24 12:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by cheeky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
though this was directed at men, as a woman who just went through child birth, i'd have to say you're nuts. Sure, it's not the most attractive thing to see, however, nothing is like the first time you lay eyes on your child. and you woman will need you there for support. It's very physically and emotionally draining to give birth, and you being there will mean more to her than you know. you don't have to "stare down the hole", just hold her hand, support one of her legs, and keep encouraging and reassuring her.
2006-10-24 10:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was there for both, there is really nothing to compare to the experience. Like everyone has said, your wife will need you to sit by her side, hold her hand, stroke her hair, take the abuse she may dish out, be a man. You were there for the start so be there for the results. Childbirth is a HUGE thing for women and anything we men can do to help and support them through it is our job. If you can't handle it you have no right unwrapping it in the first place, just stay childless.
2006-10-24 10:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by medic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww...don't be at the bar! My husband and I made a deal, he would be in the room with me, as long as he didn't actually see the baby being born. He's going to hold my hand and coach me, but he's going to stay up at my head. You should be there when your significant other gives birth to your child. I hope you'll change your mind. Good luck!
2006-10-24 10:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was there 4 times. You can go down the pub anytime but it's not often you will see your own child being born. You don't know what your missing.
2006-10-24 11:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was'nt allowed to see the birth of my first chld there were complications with the birth but I was there for my second it was one of lifes magical moments to be apart of nothing less than a miracle .Yes i could have waited in the corridor but not at the pub.That was my choice just as you have the right to choose .The sight of a small amount of blood was nothing to worry about he came out quickly was washed and my wife and I held him within seconds of being born .I dont love him more than the other but I only had one chance to see this in real life it was well worth it.
2006-10-24 10:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by john h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha! I wish they would be delivered by storks too! but if you werent there I think you'd regret it! I mean it is the miracle of birth! you made another life! thats pretty amazing! and if you were down the pub, i think your gf/wife would never forgive you!! x
2006-10-24 10:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by ms_jaffa_cake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is for the Guys but, why wouldn't you be there? Your wife would like it if you were and you dont want to know what is going on? What happens if somthing goes wrong? I'm not wishing it on you but you got to think of these things! dont you want to know how she is feeling and be there for support. Guys take it like its no big dael wich it is. Its not easy to deliver a baby!. I hope you are there to see a miracle of your baby's life. CONG. ON THE BABY AND ENJOY IT WHLIE IT LASTS.
ps its not as disgusting as is sounds or is! I had two boys my husband saw the first and missed the second one and he was disappointed!
2006-10-24 10:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋