I like this boy, but he doesn't wanna date me because he wants to stay single. He said we could be friends with benefits but i don't really wanna do that. I think he likes me and my friends say he does but I don't really know what to do!! He invites me over to his house but i never go because i know where it'll lead to and then i'll probably regret it because i only do that kind of stuff if i'm in a relationship for awhile. I really care about him and I've told him a lot of times but he still says he doesn't wanna date cause he wants to be single! PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-24 03:25:54 · 17 answers · asked by Shortie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him that if he doesnt wanna be in a relationship then he cant have "added benefits", he either wants to be friends or dating, not half and half
2006-10-24 03:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to avoid dating and stay single (for now at least) and you want to date him and see if it might lead somewhere.
Seems like you have not found your match so either back off and wait until he is ready or go forth and find another guy whom you like who is more into dating and relationships than fooling around without any interest in commitment.
Sorry that is probably not the answer you want to hear but the reality is until he is ready to date and marry you are just going to keep banging your head against a wall by trying to get him to move sooner. Thus you will be better off moving on and letting him stay as he chooses.
2006-10-24 10:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this. Drop him and cut your loses. Let him be single. He only is interested in playing the field. You might not be the only girl. With a girlfriend around, a guy can't play the field.
There are plenty of guys around, please don't settle for a shallow guy. Look for a man that wants to love you for who you are.
It is hard to be just a friend when you have feelings for the person. You might be better off not seeing this guy again.
Face the facts, you want to be in a relationship, he wants to be single. You have to find someone with the same goal.
Hope and confidence heals a damaged heart.
2006-10-24 10:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be single why is he asking for a friend with benefits. He just wants to use you and discard off. Do not give him that chance.
Try and get over him, you will find somebody better once you move ahead.
2006-10-24 10:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he says he wants to be single, and just be friends with benifits it means he just wants to fool around with as many girls as possible. Why else would he invite you over. Do you really want to be with a guy like that? My advice is just to forget about him and find another guy who actually likes you for you, and not your body.
2006-10-24 10:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by Candace T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, this guy is a piece of work. You are very smart not to put yourself in a situation that you would regret. He wants to "have his cake and eat it too". In other words, he just wants to be free to mess around however he wants. RUN, don't walk, away from this guy. He's a player and he will only hurt you.
2006-10-24 10:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he likes you.....for the wrong reason! He likes you because he knows you might give in and be a bootie call buddy, and he would have exactly what he wants. Not what you want though, right? Stay out of his bed. If you like him as much as it seems in your writing, you won't be able to keep your emotions out of it, and that is trouble!
2006-10-24 10:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to date, but he want to be friends with benefits. Somebody is confused. Friends with benefits are friends who have sex together sound like dating to me. He should have said he don't want to be your boyfriend he just want to Shag you when he can't find nobody else.
2006-10-24 10:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! He wants to sleep with you........and many others. He is being honest with you, you have to give him credit for that. If you sleep with him, you will get hurt, and you will deserve it. You know what you are setting yourself up for. DON'T do it, unless you just want to be a booty call!
2006-10-24 10:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u like him then dont have sex with himif u guys are not together...he will only associate u with sex that way. But to be honest it sounds like he doesnt really want anything else from you
2006-10-24 10:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋