It is agony, please do not suggest KY Jelly and taking it slow! I am not a virgin by quite a long way but this is excruciating and It not only makes me feel like it is tearing but afterwards my insides and kidneys fell like I have been kicked. A is OUT and so is O as it is too big a girth for that...Should I move on.. I always wanted a BIG one but it is 8 1/2 inches around the shaft and a little longer than that. Do not bother posting "Ooh send him round" or "I wish" I have had more than most and this is so upsetting..
2006-10-24 03:24:17 · 43 answers · asked by JoyDivision 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it is that painful and you feel like you just cant do it then you may want to move on. My boyfriend also has a huge penis and it took two full months for it to stop hurting. The way I handled it was just to do it until i couldnt take it anymore and then ask him to stop. I was really sore for awhile and I had to give myself some healing time , but I just kept doing it that way and eventually it stopped hurting.
2006-10-24 03:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are ways to alleviate some of the negative effects,but not enough to make you happy,you must be petite.Tell him to hold back a little,grab a hold and use your hand to keep a few inches out, he will enjoy that sensation as well,or you get on top and don't take more than you can handle.Physically you just aren't a match,because that isn't really that big.Find a smaller guy and make his day.You will be the one woman he has ever met that wasn't looking for John Holmes younger brother.Good luck.
2006-10-24 03:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really like this guy and he really likes you to then I suggest you try different positions where you can regulate how much of him goes inside you. Also try talking to him about how not to shove all of it in at once. However if you really don't have feelings for him and you don't want to be with him just break up with him. But trust me I had the same problem with my now fiancee. When he and I first started it would feel like he was going through my vagina and out my mouth. But we now can get crazy in the sack because I had to worm up to all 10 inches. And of course now he still doesn't just ram it all in but we work together and it it magnificent!
2006-10-24 03:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by miss_peaches 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard to do but hun i think it is time for you to move on..you are just not sexual compatible and u can be feeling like that everytime you have sex...sex is supposed to be a fun and enjoyable time not a time that put u in so much pain..but at least you know now from personal experience that very big is not always better..and besides if you can't have sex in the relationship then there really is not relationship that what brings people closer..
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-24 03:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do understand how you feel, I am 38 years old and have had a kid, and my husband size is an issue for me as well, that is why we do not have sex a whole lot but, the thing is, I have learned to tell him to slow it down, don't bang so hard, and yes some lube never hurts, I do not use a lot just a pinch, because I do not have a problem getting wet, I love him and never plan on leaving him but, we did had to learn how to take it easy, for my sake................Good Luck................................
2006-10-24 03:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is enlightening for me to hear the woman's perspective. I have always thought that bigger is better. When I discussed with my ex-girlfriend, she kept telling me that it is not the case.
So I guess it is the experience-sharing that matters more than the size. Love making is a big part of a relationship - and if you do not get happy with it, you will be miserable. If you tune out, your boyfriend may also tune out... not a good thing.
2006-10-24 03:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by j c 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
umm if its too much to handle and it hurts you then its not enjoyable move on. Im sure if it was the opposite u wouldnt have needed to post this Q, cuz u woulda done left him a loooong time ago. It sounds like u think bigger should be better, but its not if it hurts. find some one new that you can handle
2006-10-24 03:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Girlfriend I know whatcha mean..." My dude is humongous, and "now" I love it... At first I felt like you and I thought that he was entirely too big and that I couldn't possibly take all of that, but low and behold to my surprise, I got it in my head that this is my dyck, and I run this... What you have to do is be extremely wet when he goes in and while he is entering, inhale like a muthaf*cker, take a big deep inhale.... and when he is in think about some real freaky shyte, to make sure that your mind is not on him and what he is doing to you... Think about the fact that if you don't let him air that out, another woman is out there waiting her turn... Tighten your muscles up and phuck him instead of letting him phuck you...A lot of people get it twisted but intimacy is a mental and physical thing, not just physical... enjoy that shyte... The more you enjoy the more moisture and then you will be wayyyyy relaxed and enjoying yourself too... P.S. KY Jelly is so old school, and too much of it will eventually cause you to chafe... Go old school and use Petroleum Jelly... (sounds weird but it works... and it’s not too slippery...) Take that dyke girl, it sounds like you have a winner... I think I may be dating his older brother though...Oh, and for the oral thing... some guys like for you to go all the way down, but from experience, all of the power is at the head... Make sure you just give a lot of attention to the tip, and his jewels... you don't have to taste the pipe... and if you "SWALLOW"- that's a charge off at no cost... LMAO!
2006-10-24 03:47:45 · answer #8 · answered by Dani_n_keem 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
wow. i know that's not a fun thing to experience. i've been there. i guess as far as what to do about it----have you been with him long? if not then do you think it's something your body can adjust to? if you have been together for awhile then think about if he is the kind of guy that you would really like to continue dating aside from being rather large. if you would like to keep seeing him then maybe you can get in touch with a sex therapist, maybe they would have some suggestions on how to make sex easier and less painful. good luck.
2006-10-24 03:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by bbydol221 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
81/2 inches circumfrence? I find that hard to believe. If you are sure you don't have a medical problem that would cause pain, and he is hurting you that much, then just end the relationship and move on. Unfortunately for him, that may be a problem that follows him through life.
2006-10-24 03:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by blondee 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋