I was seeing this guy for awhile. We never got into a relationship with each other even though I really wanted to. What is the saying? He's just not that into you? Anyways about three weeks ago he told me he couldn't go out with me/be with me/see me because he was in the process of trying to hook up with someone else. As if life can get no worse he was rude about it and hurtful like I don't have any feelings. Anyways about six months ago we sold a car that we had both fixed up. I got the check in the mail about a week ago. It is in my name. So here is the dilemna. We have not spoken since the tense departure I don't want to call/text/communicate or speak to him just for the mere principal. I refuse to let him think I'm finding any reason to talk to him and i'm tired of making things easy for him. My friends say to hell with him he doesn't seem concerned about it since he has not even mentioned it so keep it and be merry. What do you all think?
2006-10-24 03:16:44 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I bought it from a junk yard and thought it was something we could do together since we both liked cars.We both paid for parts and repair. The deal was to give me half the cost of the car back when we sold it. I know it sounds like I'm being very cynical but you can't imagine what this whole thing has weighed heavily on my mind. I would be thinking differently had he not been such an @#% to me. I mean I have to ask myself what would he do in the reverse. I honestly can't tell you that I could garauntee him being moralistic about it.
2006-10-24 03:33:41 · update #1
definately keep it. if you don't then you're stupid. sorry if that sounds rude, but it's true.
2006-10-24 03:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by bbydol221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all fairness, even though he hurt you and didn't think about fairness to you, you should give him his share. Do you want to be like him? Cold and disrespectful, or do you want to feel like you are the better person? I know you want to get back at him for hurting you but do what you know is right in your heart. You wouldn't have asked us this question if the right thing to do wasn't already in your head & heart. Just mail it to him, no note just the money, and forget and forgive him for being less of a person than you. In the end (not right now) you'll feel better for doing it.
2006-10-24 03:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the way you would normally act. Are you a moral person? If so send him/get him the money through a third person with a note saying simply this is your part of the car. If you are normally not a moral person or are simply kind of out for yourself, keep the money. Either way, make it your decision, not your friends. They have no stake in anything here.
2006-10-24 03:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by BDP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, how rude! It's a toughie...keep it or give him part...hmmm. It would be soooooo easy to just keep the whole thing! BUT....I agree with some of the others. Be the bigger person and just send him a money order (NOT a personal check!!) for his part. No note or anything just a notation on the money order. But...then again...do you think he would send you your part if the situation was reversed?!
2006-10-24 03:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the car is in your name alone, keep the money and keep quiet. Only if the car were in both names, would you have an obligation to share it with him. He may have helped you fix it up, but it's yours. Consider it the prize for having lost a cheating guy.
2006-10-24 03:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have two choices either spend your half and save the rest in a safe place like the bank with the excuse he mite come looking for it and youll earn interest on it too!! OR you can send his half as a cheque in the post with no other form of communication on it other than his address on the front then it can never come back on you if things turn nasty as you never spent it because after hearing your story he doesnt sound like a fair guy GOOD LUCK!!!! xx
2006-10-24 03:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by eilym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put half of the money aside in a savings account and hold onto it for 90 days... if he hasn't contacted you about his share of the money by then, it's yours. This just covers you if he calls you next month asking about his money. You won't have to pull any big chunks of cash out of your a**, and by waiting 90 days, if he ends up taking you to court, you held his share for a reasonable amount of time.
2006-10-24 03:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by baby_girl_8881 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say ignore your friends and keep trying to get ahold of him. If anything he may want some money and need it since I don't know one person in this world who doesn't. I am sure you want to talk to him too and I hope it works out for the best.
2006-10-24 03:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would deposit the check, and then write him a check for 1/2 of it, but don't send it unless he contacts you for it. If a year goes by without him contacting you, then I'd go ahead and use the other half of it. I would not spend it until then, but I wouldn't contact him either. It's up to him to contact you.
2006-10-24 03:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing and send him a check for half with a short note as to why. Be the grown up.
2006-10-24 03:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by Robyn C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would keep ignoring him, but maybe ask the person who wrote the cheque to cancel it and reissue it in differant names. Failing that, cash it and send it or deliver it with a very short note. You don't want him to sue you for the money later...
2006-10-24 03:20:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋