went out with a guy on a date, i told him after that i wasn't interested in anything romantic, but would be happy to still be his friend. He is still messaging and calling me several times a day. How can I tell him gently that once every 2-3 days is sufficient?
2006-10-24 03:14:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Remind him of what you said earlier. And tell him directly but gently that you would prefer his not calling you several times a day. This is the only way the message could get through and that you meant what you said.
2006-10-24 03:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people cant do the whole lets be friends thing, think about it? I reckon you dont reply he'll soon get the message and give up. He only wants the lets be friends in the hope there's still a chance of romance
2006-10-24 10:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by Shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say firmly but nicely, I'm not interested in that way, and you are really not improving your chances by borderline stalking me. If he keeps it up, go to your phone company and report him. They will block his number from calling or messaging you, and if it continues, they can get the police involved. You need to deal with this now, because it would amaze you how quick this kind of thing can get scary.
2006-10-24 10:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is he doesn't take you seriously and "gently" turning him down isn't working! you have to be frank with people, especially in love, because you could end up hurting his feeling even more! some girls just don't understand that. they think they doing the guy a favor by beating around the bush and turning him down gently so they won't hurt his feelings. you have to be frank from the start. would you want a guy to toil with your feelings or would you like him to be upfront from the beginning?
2006-10-24 10:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by ShaneA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's a persistent guy, not even the direct approach would be effective. simply ignore his messages... don't reply unless he gives you reason to (a very good reason). if he calls, just listen to his point for a few minutes and then end the conversation. if he can't still take a hint, ignore him completely. it's important not to hurt his feelings, no matter how annoyed you are with him (of course unless he starts demanding).
2006-10-24 10:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ricky the Kid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what women have done to me in the past, ignore it and change your number. I hate to say that I used to do that but it is a phase for alot of men who don't get alot of social interaction with the opposite sex or don't get many dates. You must have been his first date in a while and he was excited and let his happiness or something else get in the way of good listening. Either way be nice to him and try to think of it from this perspective.
2006-10-24 10:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u only want to be friends again and say that u should only call me 2-3 times a day
2006-10-24 10:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by brit 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk 2 him again an restate what u want with him. Ask him call every couple of days cause ur busy and really would like to talk to him.
2006-10-24 10:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore his calls/texts. Only get back to him once every 3 days or so. He'll move on when he doesn't get the attention he wants from you.
2006-10-24 10:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how busy you are, and that you value your "alone" time as well as social time. Then ignore the messages for a few days, and he'll cool off.
2006-10-24 10:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋