when i first started my relationship with my boyfriend, i was really happy that he was a man of little words. we feel comfortable not talking, but just enjoying the company of each other. but years past and i realised i am craving for a companionship that allows me hours of chatting, common dreams and goals. is it that my needs have changed or i no longer want whatever i used to want? and can the commitement of love alone hold the weights of long term relationship?
2006-10-24 03:13:24 · 9 answers · asked by Samantha T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You guys can work on this. Tell him how you feel. If he can't do it, it doesn't mean your realtionship has to end. You can make other friends to have this companionship with.
2006-10-24 03:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him know that you would like a change. Let him know your preferences and perhaps he should be able to adapt to them.
People can change, in terms of needs, preferences, choices, etc.
For a long term relationship to work well, it's actually tough. Both parties need to have a strong commitment of love but most importantly, being able to widstand not being able to see each other.
There might be cases where one person will feel down and need comforting from the other but being far apart, this isn't possible. You can't see each other face to face when in need. Thus not being there for each other when in need.
2006-10-24 17:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by axix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I know exactly how you feel. If this keeps on like it is right now, no it probably will not last long. So try to work on it yourself, and if that doesn't work tell him how you feel. My man is really shy and all it meant is that at first he wasn't comfurtable with me, when we got closer I was used to it and really didn't think about it but later I did and talked to him about it. Now we talk about everything and I mean everything. It's a lot better of a relationship now. I'm glad I said something and you will be too. Good Luck!
2006-10-25 03:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it was one of the things you enjoyed about him when you first started seeing him.....this might be tough because he must think you still like it. Try getting counceling....or trying to find something he really enjoys to talk about. If he likes football, country music, hunting, the stock market, the news, golfing...whatever it is if you don't know about it research it and then bring it up.
My husband isn't one to have a conversation with about most things....but when we get on a subject he knows we do get some talking done....
Also try to find a friend you can talk to when you crave those long conversations.....
Love, Mandy
2006-10-24 03:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by })i({ J and D's Momma })i({ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the question should be can your desire for hours of chatting be achieved by another means? Can you find a girlfriend that will satisfy this? Does this desire have to be met by your boyfriend alone? Is he a jealous type? If this desire can be met by someone other than him (whether female or male) will this cause him problems?
I think there's a lot of questions you should contemplate before you reach a final decision.
2006-10-24 03:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by sir_galahad_ks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you have relaxed what you wanted to have this boyfriend and now it has caught up with the relationship?
he is who he is
I have always heard,, its not the big things it the daily little things that chip away at a relationship
I don't know your age, many times younger people grow up and apart
you may have different desires now
tell him lately you have many ideas and thoughts and if it would be a problem to openly share them , it might lead him into opening up,
its a worth a try
good luck
2006-10-24 03:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once read that the best relationships are the ones with the best conversations..................... find a good conversationalist.
Or maybe your man is just quiet. Do you think it'd be worth it to give him up for another?
You and I are in teh same boat. My boyf of 2 years isn't much of a talker and I am. I sometimes crave more fun intriguing conversations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-24 03:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why don't let your relationship cool down.see what happen now.lf u need help email 2 me.
2006-10-24 06:51:39 · answer #8 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea ur needs may change over the time..or he no longer satisfy your requirements
2006-10-24 03:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by dior babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋