do they feel pressure? a g/f has been going out w/ this guy for 7 years and he doesnt marry her nomatter what...
2006-10-24 02:58:02 · 27 answers · asked by elenitsa!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
7 years is too long to be waiting for a guy to be read honey. i think when guys are ready they just are. 'when you know, you know.' i think it's time for you to be on your own/find someone with the same interests as you. you've wasted almost a decade waiting for this idiota to ask you. so not fair to you, babe!
2006-10-24 02:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's right or wrong in our mind shouldn't matter. People that are gay/lesbian should have the sam right as married people in many ways. What I mean by that is two men or two women that have been together forever just like a man & a woman should be able to retire and their pension go to the person they've been with for all these years. It's like this, if a man and woman were not married but lived with each other for 45 years and the man passed away, his significant other wouldn't receive his pension (Viceversa) and where does that leave the person they loved so much? You don't have to be married to have that long lasting love but in our society it works that way. I don't care what a person choice is as far as the mate they've chosen but everyone, whether it's a male & female, two men or two women that choose to not be married (or legally can't) is their choice and to be discriminated against isn't right. It's like our election. We may have a white President or we may have a black President. If our President is black is that wrong? I don't think so.
2016-05-22 06:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is this: why do women put up with men who refuse to make a commitment? If you've been with a guy for 3 years, it's time. If he won't commit, you need to move on. Guys don't always make commitments until the woman insists. I don't like ultimatums, though. That's not a good thing. Then the woman feels he's committed just because he HAD to, not because he wanted to. If you sleep with a guy without marriage, what is his incentive to marry, by the way? A woman who wants to marry is a fool to stick with a guy for 7 years without marriage (unless, of course, he's in medical school or something).
2006-10-24 03:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he hasn't realised that she won't think he's serious about her until there's a proposal... Not everybody feels like they need marriage to have a proper commitment, and it might just not be something he's ever thought about. Has she even asked him if he wants to get married at all? Maybe they need more communication about this instead of her just worrying why he's not asked yet.
2006-10-24 03:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar spot myself. I think it has something to do with the fact that the relationship is different from what the b/f's parents have. my b/f's parents have been married forever, and supposedly never argued, yet we argue sometimes - so I guess that knocked me out of the loop for heading down the aisle.
My best friend summed it up as, "If you can get the milk for free, why pay for the cow?"
2006-10-24 03:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by cmott1972 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he is scared to make the final step of commitment
I would not wait for 7 years, I have never married and to be honest i am not at all bothered if i don't get wed but to some people this is very important. If getting married was important to me than i would defiantly give him the opportunity of saying that he marry me or the relationship is over.
2006-10-24 03:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some guys want all the benefits of married life, but without the commitment and responsibilities which goes along with it.
2006-10-24 03:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by WC 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Any man who gets married takes the risk of a life long financial burden. Blame the law makers.
2006-10-24 03:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by Clive 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My sister has been living with her "boyfriend" for over 20 years and he still hasn't proposed so they are not married. Wonder if she'll let me be a bridesmaid lol
2006-10-24 03:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by IC 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've come to the conclusion that you are a little bit psycho. Did you ever stop to think you are coming on too strong? Maybe too eager? If you want to get married now and kids now, there must be a site for you people. maybe if you take it easy and slow down a bit, it will happen. good luck
2006-10-24 03:02:31 · answer #10 · answered by bunya00 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋