ok so lets say you married a guy that was bi...now if you are saying "oh i would never marry a bi guy, thats gross"...lets say you dont know he is bi...but you end up havning kids with him and as the years go by he grows more towards men than women...in the end he has very little attraction for you now...he has not turned gay...but he is just bi....and he lets you know it....what would you do? (he has not cheated...mind you) would you stay married with him (for the kids) but stop having sex with him while he went off with...lets say a boyfriend (he hasnt became a man whore...lol)??? or would you divorce him???
i think this would be a tough choice....but...well....i wanna see what YOU would do.....
2006-10-24 02:49:24 · 28 answers · asked by The Phoenix Wears Armani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that would depend on the relationship. However, I would be very uncomfortable with it. If the kids are grown, maybe it would be OK for the marriage to be maintained while he has his flings, but not if the kids are little. If he is the major breadwinner, I would want something legal that protects me in the case he decides HE no longer wants to be married to me after catting around for several years with my OK.
2006-10-24 02:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have an issue with it. I am a very open minded person. In relationships, I believe in doing my best to keep my partner happy. If that means him sleeping with other guys - oh well. I can just as easily go out and sleep with females. However, I would try to make it to where the both of us were involved. (Threesome.)
I have dated a bisexual man before. They are the greatest lovers!
In the end, who cares if he's bi or not? That would just make two of us - and lots of fun adventures in the bedroom! Marriage isn't all about sex!
2006-10-24 02:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by Momma Jette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well see bi guys don't bother me (maybe because i'm bi myself, not sure) but if i wasn't getting any and he would rather be with men....damn this is a toughie. i'd have to say it depended on the man himself. if he was still an amazing person and a great father, i would stay married and let him do his thing as long as he let me do mine. and if we both found someone else, then we would talk about it and go from there. but for the time being...hey if he brings me hot guys home that are bi, i'm game haha
2006-10-24 02:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Rockstar Jersey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be hard but I think I would have to go with a divorce. It would be a mutual split up so I would hope that we would remain close, for the kids sake. I would choose this because, if the person I am with was not able to love me with all of their heart and want to be with me, why be there. It would be the best for both parties to go on with other relationships and be happy rather than be with each other knowing it is not where you would want to be.
2006-10-24 02:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would file for divorce because if my husband couldnt be honest with me from the start about being bi then why should I trust anything else he may tell me about him self and if he has turned more towards having a boy friend then keeping his wife who the hell knows what kind of STD he could bring home to me
2006-10-24 02:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by wildone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I'D HAVE A COUPLE OF MONTHS TO CONSIDER COS HE'LL BE IN HOSPITAL FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS AFTER I'M DONE WITH HIM.
However if I was to make an on the spot decision.......I'd divorce him definitely, theres no cheating thats gone on but the fact that he's allowed me to get so close to him for so long feel for him, love him, look after him etc and waits until I'm tied to him for life by having kids with me and then turns around and blind sides me by telling me he's into men.
#1 He obviously doesnt love me as much as I love him
#2 Deception leaves me asking why would I believe him when/if he tells me he hasn't cheating.
#3 I'd start thinking perhaps theres something wrong with me (2nd thoughts no I wouldn't)
There are a crap load more e.g's I could give but I guess you catch the drift
2006-10-24 03:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hum that is a tough question, especially being that you have kids.
Do you think that eventually he will venture out with a man? Because if so I might have a problem with my man leaving me for a man eventually. The answer might lie with this. If he wants to sleep with men then ask him if he is okay with you sleeping with other people and if he says no then he can see where you are coming from, and where your worry stems from.
But if he tells you yes then you might be better off getting out while it is still all early on.
2006-10-24 02:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. As a bi woman I would not be disturbed by his orientation, but only by his fidelity. Most human beings are bi (look at the research) so that is no big deal. What is important is that when you make a commitment to be faithful to one person (male or female) you keep that promise.
2006-10-24 02:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know I was bi also and had been hiding in the closet then invite some of my girlfriends over so he could watch. I think that would make him think twice about boning some guy up the corn hole for awhile
2006-10-24 03:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him to invite his boyfriend over so I could watch.
I would also have a boyfriend of my own.
But I would tell husband to keep his hands off my boyfriend!
Okay all kidding aside, whats the point of staying with someone who doesn't love you? It's not worth it, not even for the kids. They need a loving environment not all this 'other' people drama. If there is no love there is no marriage, at least not in my book.
2006-10-24 02:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋