We have been together for almost 6 months, pretty much from the day we met we haven't left each others side.He moved me and my daughter in with him after about 1 month.He acts likes he loves me. He includes me in all his furture plans,even talks about the house he is going to build me, and jokes(I think) about marring me, he has given me control in his business and life, tells me he can't live without me, he has taken me and my daughter on expenisive vacations, he bought me a car, he praises everything I do, brags about me to his family ect...but he won't say I love you to me. He says it's because I hound him about saying it. but I've only made metion a few times.
He can't even sleep without us totally entertwinded in each other.He tells me he isn't like others and he isn't a mushy guy, and repeatly has said..."IF I didn't, would I act like I do,and do the things I do" I've been married twice and this guy shows more love to me then both husbands put together.Why won't he say it.
2006-10-24 02:36:39 · 21 answers · asked by Ember F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I said I love you to him 2 months ago. He looked liked he was going to burst. But there is an emotional side to me that isn't be filled in me. He is very needed. Emotionaly and physically Back rubs ect...But when I ask for these things it falls on death ears...He has told me that I'm like his best friend and mom.and that, the things he has given me are a way of paying me back for all i do.So I'm wondering if it's love, or if he just needs someone to take care of him.
2006-10-24 06:16:06 · update #1
well let me explain... he bought the car (which I can't drive,cuz it's a stick,he knew I can't drive it) because he didn't want my ugly van seen by his house.He bought me clothes because he didn't like the ones I had. He wantted to be with me but wouldn't come over to my trailer..he doesn't like them.He says he takes me on vacation,out to dinner ect...as a way to pay me back for cooking and cleaning,laundry ,doing yard work and office work and taking care of him.
2006-10-24 06:55:19 · update #2
He will say it when he is ready. Maybe he is scared of the actual words. Don't push him about it...all it will do is start a fight...just be patient and know that he does.
2006-10-24 02:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mintygoodness1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it, I would rather have a guy that shows love than one that just says the words. Actions speak louder than words. The phrase "I love you" is so over used, and half the people saying it are at a loss for something else to say. Be happy you have a relationship like this. Would you rather him tell you 24/7 that he loves you, and be with his friends all the time, or constantly watch sports, showing no attention to you at all? You have something special with this guy, in my opinion, saying "I love you" is just the icing on the cake.
2006-10-24 02:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he believes in actions speaking louder than words. He wants to show it to you. Maybe he is the romantic type that likes to prove things to people instead of saying it and not showing it. If a man was treating me like he treats u, I would be convinced that he loves me. I think that u shouldnt hound over his shoulder for him to say it because he can start to feel like you always complain or are very unappreciative. The words will come out sooner or later. Girl your lucky, cuz if i had me a man like that, Id cherish everything we did together.
2006-10-24 02:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys show their emotions in the things they do, not the things they say. When a guy can say he loves you and he means it, it is his ulitmate surrendor. Men know how to protect themselves physically and socially, but emotionally they don't have a clue. His ego doesn't know how to protect him emotionally. If he says I love you and then things don't work out he will feel like he left his guard down and asked for the punishment he will feel during a break up. As long as he doesn't utter those words, he is in control of his emotions. It is a typical guy thing and nothing to worry about. Some men care about people in different ways, they never show it in what they say but in what they give you....typically in a financial way. It is just easier for them to show they care that way.
Why do you need to hear it? True love is about unconditional giving and not needing? Do you need to know he loves you before you can love him? True love has no requirements before it is given. Ego Love needs things to be right before it is given.
2006-10-24 02:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just have difficulty coming out with those three little words. But plz don't push him, u don't want to push him away now do you? Maybe he would like to say it whn u stop asking him or even when u stare at him hoping that he says it because he knows what your thinkin'. Try and act like you don't care bout those words anymore and he may just suprise you, and when he does make sure you copyright it in your mind because it may take another 6 months before he says it again.
2006-10-24 02:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by Tahisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it so necessary to hear the words...have you ever heard that action speaks louder than words....Sometimes people have trouble expressing themselves verbally....I'm sure that when he gets ready to take that step it will be from the heart...Just slow down enjoy the moment and I would much rather someone tell me how they feel about me on their own than feel like they did it because they were forced to....Be Patient! Be Thankful! Not to many men would do what he has done regarding you and your daughter...if he didn't care....
2006-10-24 02:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is it so important to you to hear those words? You know he does in fact love you by his actions alone(moved you and your child in, bought you a car, takes you on expensive vacations). Sounds to me like he has already answered your question. "He says it's because I hound him about saying it. " and "He tells me he isn't like others and he isn't a mushy guy." Maybe you should stop being so selfish and be thankful for your great man.
2006-10-24 03:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by danzahn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. Thts just strange. Perhaps hes waiting for the right time. Dont say anything and leave it for a while, perhaps hes saving it up for sometime special.
2006-10-24 02:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks he doesn't need to say it because you should already know. He may also think that when he does say it he wants it to be really special that phrase is so over used anyway. Don't hound him about it anymore just enjoy him.
2006-10-24 02:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because if he says it then you will be wanting to get married next and I am guessing he wont be up for that. He already has all the benefits with none of the responsibilities and no worries about you getting half if you split.
2006-10-24 02:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord girl!!!He doesn't HAVE to say the words, he is showing you!!!!! They are 3 little words,that are so misused and used for so many wrong reasons...You said yourself that he shows you more love, than 2 husbands put together...HE SHOWS YOU LOVE...Actions speak volumes, and the volume is blasting!!!If you keep pushing him, you may begin to push him away...You have a King who treats you like HIS QUEEN !DON't mess it up.
2006-10-24 02:42:29 · answer #11 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋