Suppose a man and a woman are dating, and each date, they split the check. If both people are okay with that, is the guy cheap?
2006-10-24 02:32:05 · 26 answers · asked by john 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is she really okay with it or just pretending to be? I would not be okay with it. If a guy takes you out then he should pay. If she asks him out then she should. I wouldn't go on a second date with the cheap guy.
2006-10-24 02:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the guy is cheap. I think the woman is self sufficient. When I was dating, I often would at least prepare to pay my own half. I never went out on a date without enough cash to cover my end. The times have changed so much over the years. Years ago, when a man asked a woman out on a date, not only did he pick her up, bring flowers, AND pay for the meal, he did not expect anything sexual from her. Now the men (young men might I add) expect some type of sexual favors in exchange for their meal. It's a shame really. Of course, when I was in the dating era of my life that's precisely why I dated men at least 10 years my senior. They tend to be more mature and of a class I'm better suited for.
2006-10-24 02:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, absolutely he is NOT cheap . Many women earn more than the men they date . If you want to be treated like an equal then act like one . In fact, as a special treat like on a birthday etc., one or the other should pick up the entire tab . I am almost 80 years old and I was raised to stand on my own two feet and not sucker off of the other one . It is not new at all only now it's out in the open . And a good thing too .
Oh yes, there is one danger though : be careful you don't get carried away if you are lonely and pick up a dead beat that hangs on to you for the money .
Be generous but keep a level head .
2006-10-24 02:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called "going dutch", and I've done it plenty of times.
I had arrangements where I would pay the first time, she would pay the second time, and we'd split the bill the third time. It's not a sign of being cheap, but that you want this relationship to be a "partnership", where you are both equals in all things - even money.
Another arrangement I made was that I'd pay the bill if she left the tip. The only time the man should always pay for everything is if he's planning on doing this for the duration of the relationship.
2006-10-24 02:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In response to the women's rights activist who told you to start dating real men...maybe she needs a real man. Besides, the way this is worded it sounds like you might be the guy questioning as to if you did the right thing. If you both agreed on going "Dutch" on the check then the guy isn't being cheap. Maybe this is a new relationship and it just felt more comfortable doing this way so no one would feel obligated at the end of the night to each other? I say, at least the guy didn't leave her to pay the whole thing!! This is way more common than you think. Totally acceptable!!
2006-10-24 02:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by paesano2578 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the guy is cheap at all. In today's society, everything is so expensive. If you have any respect for the future, or the money it actually takes to live these days, splitting the check is the smart way . If the girl has no problem with this,why not?
2006-10-24 02:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that paying your own way is great , and this couple must feel the same about splitting thier expenses.The only problem is this, what is to be expected if thier relationship goes beyond casual dating? Is it going to be o.k. to split the rent and all of thier bills.If both have a job maby this will work out for them, and remenber 2 can almost live as cheaply as one.
2006-10-26 09:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by zzum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! Now a days women are making just as much if not more than guys. Personally I wouldnt have a problem buying my guy a meal here and there. I am not your traditional woman....traditions show non-evolution. The world changes everyday and I prefer to roll with it and NOT do something because thats the way it has always been.
2006-10-24 02:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think the guy should buy on the first few dates. I do think however, that the girl should help out after that because it is very expensive to date. If you go to dinner, a movie and have a few drinks, you have spent well over a hundred dollars.
2006-10-24 02:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your date is ok with it, that's all that matters. You're only cheap if you know she can't really afford to pay, you can afford to pay but insist on splitting the bill.
My bf and I don't split the bill anymore but we take turns on who pays. Or if I initiate the outing, I pay. If he initiates, he pays.
2006-10-24 02:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋