my b-day was yesterday and although i had celebrated it all weekend with my family and my boyfriend...i still expected it to be nice. however, my boyfriend totally blew me off once he got out of work. he picked a fight with me for no reason, just so he could get off the phone. then when i was trying to call him...his phone was off the hook and giving a busy signal for about 3 hours, and his excuse was that he did it on purpose because he didn't want to hear me fighting and yelliing or even worse crying. he hasn't even called to apologize or nothing and i am just so upset and have been crying all night. we have been together for 1 yr and 9 months, and he ruined my last b-day too...UGH....what do i do...
2006-10-24 02:27:07 · 35 answers · asked by butterflykisses03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, I'm sorry that you had such a terrible birthday. I dated someone once that considered my birthday no big deal, but yet 'pulled out all the stops' to celebrate his sister's birthday with his family. I was invited to her birthday celebrations as well. I was really puzzled when he ignored mine, and it hurt to realize that he just simply didn't value what was impt. to me. Chances are the guy you're dating will view all 'special occasions' in your life as no big deals. Lose that guy and find someone that cares about what is impt to you--don't try to change this guy b/c it probably won't happen. Good Luck. You deserved someone that would make your day special. It didn't happen--move on.
2006-10-24 02:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though the both of you have a little problem of "maturity". What is wrong with having a great bd with your family. The boyfriend is just that a "boyfriend". He's not your husband, which you would expect more. Guy's really do not like girls who cry and all the rest you described your self as doing. Try to be a stronger person, you will be more respected and the next time a birthday comes around, you will enjoy it a lot more, with or without a "boyfriend"!
2006-10-24 02:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Rea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man doesn't appreciate you for the day you were born, and doesn't even give you a gift, then obviously you're with the wrong guy. What happened that night was an awakening for you. You should break it off. I know its going to be hard but this is the best option you can take. If you stay with him, he will humiliate you even more. So much that on your wedding day, he might not show up!! Now, is that what you want?
2006-10-24 02:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by meamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last guy I dated several years ago decided to be a schmuck on my birthcay. I didn't want to do anything for my birthday, and HE was the one who insisted that we go out. At the last minute, he left me a message that he was blowing me off to go to a basketball game with one of his buddies. I called back and left him a message that I was dumping him. The next night, I went out with my friends and partied to celebrate being single again. If this is the second birthday that your boyfriend has ruined, then just dump him. Don't even tell him, just walk away and get on with your life. This guy sounds like a loser.
2006-10-24 02:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have three choices.. One is to get rid of him.. Two is to expect the same thing every year.. If you want to be treated like this all the time , then keep him around. You could try talking to him an ask him why he seems to find the need to blow you off on yer birthday. Be careful though. You may not like the answer
2006-10-24 02:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by newfieswoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he has something on his mind. Give him some space and if he doesnt contact you then contact him, but wait a little while longer. Then ask why he became cold hearted towards you. There has to be a reason. Explain that you were really upset and you dont understand what you have done wrong. If he carries on bein mean then talk to one on his friends but dont involve anyone else until you have to. good luck xx
2006-10-24 02:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Emotional abuse. First step. I know because that's where it started with my ex (let me emphasize EX) husband. Moved to verbal then physical. Take it from a fool who thought she could "save" him if she was just pretty, good, smart, thin,hard-working, sympathetic, kind enough. You can't. Because really all this guy wants is power & control over you. Look at the pattern. He ruined your last birthday also? Please don't waste 23 years of your life like I did. You deserve better. You just have to believe it.
2006-10-24 02:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by girlfriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You celebrated all week with your family and boyfriend? Maybe he's tired of celebrating, or he doesn't like birthdays all that much. He ruined last years BD too? Well, there is always next year....I think you should move on...
2006-10-24 02:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Birthdays are not "Important" days for all people..... How much of a big deal can you possibly make about one person???? let alone yourself. How about a simple "happy birthday" once.... beit before the day, on the day, or after the day.....
Perhaps birthdays weren't that great for him as a kid.
Do you love him??? care to ask.... or just out for yourself???
2006-10-24 02:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by who me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM! If he's going to be a jackass and ruin your bday (twice) then he's not worth it. Also-he should've apologized to you. Even if he had a bad day at work, that's no excuse. I'm sorry but if he really loved you, he wouldn't do that to you, ESPECIALLY on your bday!
2006-10-24 02:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by lesliehope24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋