been seeing a guy i met at a club a couple of times. i'm keen, but he says he doesn't know if he's ready for the commitment of being bf and gf, and says he needs time to think about it. You think this is for real, or bulls**t and i wait fo r someone who is really keen on me?
2006-10-24 02:22:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if a guy wants to be with you he will do anything to be with you..he is full of it,,,let him go,,,,find someone who wants you.
2006-10-24 02:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by Yenny V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guy it means he's "not sure" about you. You may never know why he's not sure. Ego prevents guys from saying it specifically. Instead they tend to label it along the lines of 'not being ready for the commitment'. What he is really saying is that he is not ready for the commitment WITH YOU.
Two possible scenarios come to mind:-
1.There are some aspects about you that he has serious doubts.
2.He simply prefers the current status of friendship without the official title of bf/gf.
If you are looking for something more serious with him then some kind of ultimatum will simply turn him away. If you like the guy then enjoy the moments with him without thinking too deeply about whether 'he's the one'. A woman who's comfortable within herself is very attractive to a male. So what's the hurry? Guys can almost instinctively detect a woman who displays veiled signs of anxiety in respect to wanting something more serious. So relax and focus on enjoying your time together rather than the status of bf/gf. If you attempt to "catch" him or "tie him down" you will be left seriously disappointed. If you concentrate on becoming more comfortable within yourself about the future (it has to be genuine...not just masking or faking it) then the future will take care of itself....and you might even find he'll become more comfortable and closer to you. Good luck.
2006-10-24 09:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by Pseudo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. He's playing for time and probably hoping to find a better person to come along. You deserve more than that. If he can't commit even as a boyfriend, then, don't expect him to commit later. Play the field. If this guy is meant to be yours,he'll be back. Meantime, enjoy yourself with other guys, who knows, you might meet someone even better!
Goodluck
2006-10-24 09:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by angelheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's BS. He just isn't all that into you and may have his eye on someone else. Pushing you away maybe helps him feel okay with dating someone else.
As a general rule, anything take home from a club is temporary (i.e. the buzz, the hangover, the ciggie smell on your favorite jacket, and BF/GFs, too.)
2006-10-24 09:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by Trixie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he is up front and honest about the fact that he may not be ready for anything more serious than what you have right now. If that is not enough for you, move on and let him be.
2006-10-24 09:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could not be the commited type and maybe he is considering, or maybe he does not like you in that way. It's difficult to tell without actually knowing the guy.
2006-10-24 09:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time to think about it. You would not want him to make a commitment he is not ready for, that would just spell trouble.
2006-10-24 09:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think thats the problem i think he has some unfinish business somewhere else and not telling you if he wanted you that souldnt stop him but if he's the type that has been threw alot then he's just taking it slow from his last heartbreak and just waiting til he is ready.
2006-10-24 09:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys who are carefull when going into commitment in bf gf relationships are rare... and in most cases its just bullshit to cover up their uninterest in the girl
2006-10-24 09:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea...i suggest you wait for a different guy.. that guy you met is just talkin sh*t because he just wants to keep on with the partying!! trust me if you met him at the club he must like to party. move on. you'l be happier!
2006-10-24 09:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience forget the guy. He isn't interested; he is just pulling you along while he keeps looking.
2006-10-24 09:28:54 · answer #11 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋