my ex cheated on me with my best friend! I have a chance to do the same but at the same time i really like this guy would it hurt to do both or is it wrong.
2006-10-24 02:19:21 · 18 answers · asked by leacolenorth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
2 wrongs don't make a right .... either forgive your bf and make like nothing ever happened ... or can his cheating *** and go find someone faithful
2006-10-24 02:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've heard the expression "two wrongs don't make a right". Think about this before you take action....cheating on your boyfriend to get back at him would only serve to hurt you. And...maybe I don't understand all the facts you set out. Your x-bf cheated on you with your best friend, and now you have a chance to cheat on your current boyfriend?! What's the justice in that. I would advise you to stay away from the ex that cheated and the 'former or so-called best friend.' Banish those two people from your life if you value yourself--and examine why you've made such poor judgments in the past. If you like the guy you're with now, start with honesty and build trust. Mistakes in the past don't have to be repeated. You might have a chance here to create something meaningful. Figure out who you are, what your values are, and what you want to create for yourself. It's all about you....forget the ex and get on with your life. Good luck.
2006-10-24 09:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you would hurt an innocent bystander just to make a point with your ex? What does that say about you?
Seeking revenge just makes you low, mean and pathetic. It's never satisfying and doesn't do anything but show that this guy has really gotten to you.
Living a happy life without him and your best friend is the only best possible revenge.
2006-10-24 09:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is now your ex, how can you possibly have the chance to do the same. If you are no longer with him then you can't cheat on him.
2006-10-24 09:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a couple of things you can do, but getting back at him should definitely not be one of them.
you have to firstly think about your best friend. can you really call her that (i know you might say you might know her from age 2 and that you share everything with each other, except men, which is a rule she broke) after what she did.
i know many women who are so envious of other people, best friends included, that they try to emulate them and then try to even take their men to prove that they've achieved your likeness.
but back to the point, if you choose to forgive this guy and take him back, your friend will still be in the picture, so you have to think "can i really trust them alone together!"
what i say is try to seriously analyze your friendship and relationship and wonder if both these people are worth your time, or only worth each-other.
if you forget all this and get back at him with someone else, just remember that you could wind up getting seriously hurt, unless you're good at seperating yourself from emotions.
good luck with your situation.
2006-10-24 09:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by woodamalhk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously aren't comfortable getting revenge which is good and you care about his best friend too much to use him that way and would you be proud of yourself in your own mind and heart about revenge? If you really like his best friend, forget about revenge and your ex altogether and move on and maybe something good could happen with you and his best friend???
2006-10-24 09:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by hearts_and_thoughts_2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, get rid of the best friend,,and your ex..and ove on. BE the better stronger person,,unless you really like the guy you can get back at your ex with.
2006-10-24 09:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Yenny V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting even that way makes you no better than him....
If you really want to get even...walk away! Live and learn... men are jerks but when the right one comes along... you'll know. Obviously this one isn't the right guy!
2006-10-24 09:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he did something scummy doesn't mean you should, getting even this way would only make the guy see you as slutty and would make you feel bad about yourself in the long run.
2006-10-24 09:22:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be the better person and don't do anything to get back at him. Just act like he doesn't exist and go about your own life.
2006-10-24 09:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by lesliehope24 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋