i am feeling so depressed. Sometimes i just feel like calling him up just to see him again.
2006-10-24 01:55:02 · 9 answers · asked by miserable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
according to sex and the city, twice the length of time you were with him.
when my first bf and I broke up I bought tickets to Paris.I did it intuitively, rather than rationally/ analytically. it turned out to be the best thing to do because then I had something else to think about, a few weeks to read up on Lonely Planet, and then go. and when I came back I wasn't completely over him but something else had happened (i.e. I had gone on this trip) and I had put something between myself that event.
also being in another country meant that I couldn't call him. actually THAT was prolly the reason I left, because I knew if I didn't, I'd call him and make a fool of myself.
hope u feel better soon :(
2006-10-26 08:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by ♥perishedmemories♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long does it take? Well how long do you want? You are grieving a loss just like you would if it was a death in the family. This relationship was an intimate part of your life, & the loss of that can be extremely hard to go through, especially if you weren't personally ready to let it go.
I answered a question from a girl yesterday who wondered if it was "Normal" for her to be feeling good about the end of her relationship the very next day after it was called off.
I felt that if she could walk away with a good feeling of closure, then the sooner the better.
Calling him up may or may not help you, it depends on what you are looking for. If you are trying to re-kindle your dead relationship, then maybe it's not such a good idea. But if you are looking for that "closure" that many women want, it might help, but you may never find it by hashing over past issues with him.
The best way to get relief from your depression is to get out & do things with people. Go bowling with some girlfriends, or join a gym. Get busy & active, & out there. The process will not only do you good, but increase your chances of meeting the next guy in your life.
Oh, & treat yourself to a make-over & a new sexy outfit. You deserve it.
2006-10-24 09:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There never is a time limit when it comes to matters of the heart. I wish i could help you more, but take it from me, when you call him up, if he denies you, then you will feel much worse. And even if he didn't deny you, you will lose some of your self-worth because both of you will always know that you chased him. Let him come to you. I don't know how long its been since you broke up, but things always tend to get worse when it gets colder outside. Give yourself some time. It may take a really long time, but in the meantime, pamper yourself and find things to keep yourself busy. In due time, it will all fade and you will be much happier with another someone special. Find new things to do, even if they seem boring. Don't just sit around watching tv or whatever. Change some things in your routine. Sit somewhere different at lunch, shop at a different store, go out of town to mail a letter. Do new things. Get out of the sadness and find things about each day that make it worthwhile.
2006-10-24 09:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by summgirl5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason that you guys broke up-- remember that, and don't call him.
Some people say it takes half the length of the relationship to get over someone. For instance, if you dated for six months, it would take three months after you broke up to be completely over him.
However, it's not always true. It really depends on you- how soon you WANT to get over him, how serious the relationship was, etc. It really depends on the person. You'll be over him when the time is right. Chin up :)
2006-10-24 08:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but there's no exact time. Just find something to keep your mind off of him. And remember, the more you go back, the longer it will take to get over him.
2006-10-24 08:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess it all depends on why he's your ex?
was he an ***/liar/cheat= not very long
good guy just wanted to end it = thats up to you
just move on theres plenty out there//believe me...
2006-10-24 09:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by m t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r really true with yr ex. u'l never forget her or him for life. i bet u
2006-10-24 09:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by Nirmal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends don't let friends drunk dial, get a support group!
2006-10-24 09:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by Rick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm .. that depends ... depending on how much you're in love with him . . . i guess you really loved him very much ... =) God bless ..
2006-10-24 09:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by precious moments babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋