Is anyone else scared to die?

Question

I panic about this problem every night, im sure that noboddy wants to die but is it normal to be so scared about it,

I just feel like my life is going so fast im 27 already it has flown by in another 27 years ill be 54! thats old, I wouldnt mind if i had some reasurance that i would go somewhere when i die but im just so scared and its taking off my life any views??

Answer 1

Its an age old fear... what happens when we die.. and i think that it must be ok wherever we go cos noone ever comes back... I have lost several family members in various ways.. my mum had a heart attack.. my brother herion overdose etc etc... I'm 43 with grown kids... I think by the time i have to go I'll know more people there than here... dont be afraid, live your life to the full, try and be a good person cos it flies by and the more we learn the easier this journey becomes... remember
LIFE IS ETERNAL
LOVE IS IMMORTAL
AND DEATH IS ONLY AN HORIZON
AND AN HORIZON IS NOTHING SAVE THE LIMIT OF OUR SIGHT.... If i get there before you I'll wait at the gate lol... xxx

Answer 2

Firstly...deep breath! Acceptance is the first thing you have to master! Just think rationally. Is panicking going to prevent you from dying? No. Unfortunately, it is the one great universal truth. We are born, and we die.

None of us know what happens after death, so rather than pinning all your hopes on the after-life, why not just enjoy the life you have at the moment. You may well be dead tomorrow, equally, you may well live for many more years. A day can be an incredibly long time, so just think how long all those years are!

James Dean had a very good philosophy to life...

Live as if you'll die tomorrow, dream as if you'll live forever.

It is a depressing thought, so just don't think about it, life is the thing you should be concerned with, not death!

Answer 3

I suggest reading Sylvia Browne's books. I'm a very spiritual person, and her books have given me a lot of comfort on this subject. In death, only the physical body dies. Our spirits go on to a much better life on the other side. LOL-you said 54 is old! If you think about it, many people live into their 90s and even 100 in this day and age. So 54 is really only about 1/2 a lifetime. There was a time when most people only lived into their 30s or 40s on average, only a short century ago. Myself, I really don't want to live to an old age, when my mind and body no longer function normally. I'd rather quit while I'm ahead and move on to bigger and better things on the other side. Anyway, enjoy your life while you're here, do good and help people along the way. It's really nothing to worry about. Read Sylvia's books-and she's also on The Montel Williams Show every Wed. morning.

Answer 4

Everyone, to a greater or lessor degree, has a fear about death. If it really becomes obsessive, do think of talking it over with a counselor. It wouldn't be a heavy duty thing to do, but I'm sure it would help lift the preoccupations that you have over this.
I smile at some of the postings because I turn 71 next month, and, let me assure you, that you mellow out as you age and have the ability to put things in perspective. Don't let such thoughts rob you of your joy of life now. Hey, 27 is very young with an awful lot of living to do! I know; I've been there.

Answer 5

I'm 27 also and know what you mean about life flying by. Sure no one wants to die but all we can do is just hope it isn't anytime soon. There is so much I still want to experience (marriage, children and grandchildren and everything in between). We just have to live each day to its fullest and jam in as much as possible. Don't think about death in a bad way.. its something that everyone has to go through and no one knows anything about. I just find solace in the thought that after death is a new plateau of existence with all of its own new experiences... don't know if that's the case or not, but that is how I like to think of it.

Answer 6

I had this problem when I was about 9 years old believe it or not. I was so afraid all the time and felt ill whenever I went to bed at night and the thought would creep into my head. The thing is, that death is something that happens to everyone and it's unavoidable. The fear of death is so common, it's one of the reasons why humans invented the idea/myth of heaven and hell. It makes death easier to face when you truly believe you're going somewhere afterwards. Unfortunately, there is not much evidence for this concept as no-one has been kind enough to come back and tell us all about it (must be a great place then hehe).
Whatever your beliefs, death is the one thing we all have in common and there really is no point in dwelling on it. What you need to do is just concentrate on life - because that is where you are right now and the whole point is to enjoy it and experience as much of it as you can!

Answer 7

I'm 56 -- ancient by your standards, I guess, and there are some parts of dying I fear. Actually being dead doesn't frighten me, because I know there's nothing to DO--just let nature take its course. But the process is frightening. My father was killed in a midair collision. I wonder if it hurt. My grandfather was killed in a car accident. He lived for a few minutes after the impact--I wonder how he felt. My grandma died of cancer while still in her 40's. I know she suffered. I guess it's the "getting there" that I find a bit daunting. I don't know how much courage I'll show. The longer I live the more I want to live, but I know that can change. My husband is dying of a disease called pulmonary fibrosis. It causes the inside of his lungs to scar over and turn hard. Breathing just becomes more and more difficult. He will die soon, but it still scares him.

Meanwhile, back to your concern--I'd say that at your age it's excessive fear. You might benefit from seeing a counselor for a while, to see if you can overcome it. I'm guessing there's more to your fear than a simple fear of dying. I wish you the best with coping!

Answer 8

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Answer 10

I guess it counts as (mental) health! i think about it sometimes- most thoughtful people do and have a moment when you feel scared and wonder what you're doing here and where you are going. (I'm 28 btw) If this happens all the time then maybe you are depressed or suffering from another mental health problem and should consult a doctor. Most people suffer depression at one time or another and its easy to treat through medication and therapy