Ok here how it goes. I have fallen in love with this girl named Kimber, but she had a boyfriend and didn't tell me. But i'm not giving up yet. I love her. And that guy isn't nice to her. How can i split them up without making her suspicious?
2006-10-24 01:34:05 · 8 answers · asked by The Boy NextDoor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has to make that decision with him.
I wouldn't get involved in a serious sabatoge. However, there are ways to do it. You've heard the saying, "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence."
Well, that can apply to relationships also. The way to advertise it is simply being an extremely good friend.
I'm telling you, lousy boyfriends end up being sunk in relationships. Usually when a girl looks around and sees a guy who treats her better than her boyfriend.
Many a girl has said, "Why am I putting up with this? Jim (me) will do this and I'm not even his girlfriend." If it was helping her move a refrigerator or picking her up from a garage. I could have easily stolen this one girl. He treated her like crap. She told me she got in a fight because he refused to help her mother with driving a mini van to a park... She said, "You know, I couldn't believe something so simple. Heck I probably wouldn't even have to beg with you. I told him, "Jim would do it all I'd have to do is call him. Why am I wasting my time begging you to do it?"
She realized that Love is not so much a feeling, but more of an act of your will. If I'd been a player, I could have done whatever I wanted. I had carte blanche... I could have had her as my sex toy, but I loved her, still love her...
Just be a friend... There are ways out of the friend zone and into the relationship... My advice is to be there for her unlike her boyfriend... She'll get fed up eventually and if you play it cool, she'll say, "Why am I not with this guy?"
Just wait in the wings, it sounds like the relationship is deteriorating even as you share. Give her a little time to grieve the breakup and get the emotion crap stored away... Then you can come in as Mr. Right as opposed to that guy.
2006-10-24 01:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try splitting them up, cuz if and when (and she will) find out it was you, she may resent you, instead of like you. If he isn't nice to her, she knows it. When she comes and tells you about her problems, lend a sympathetic ear, and give her your shoulder to cry on, and then make your move by telling her that she deserves so much better.
2006-10-24 08:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Just keep being her friend. When she figures out for herself that this guy is a creep, you'll be there for her. She'll appreciate you more for that than for trying to break them up. If you do that she will lose all respect for you, and then where will you be?
2006-10-24 08:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by drammy22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can u love someone that u r not even in a relationship with?
I think u r in lust
love requires commitment and honesty
2006-10-24 08:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by whydoesapenguin? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how u feel and ask her how she feels about u if she asks y u r askin just say u were wondering if she felt the same way
2006-10-24 08:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by temple_lynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay.....YOU Can not break them up! Let them break up on their own. She wouldn't like you if she found out you did that.
2006-10-24 08:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by hot stuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm...you can't. Let them be and if they break up they break up.....things will always work themselves out.
2006-10-24 08:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard luck boy !!!!!!!!!!! you just have 2 wait n watch . if they brake up well n good but if they dont, ..............go ahead n find someone else coz this world is too big to give up!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-24 08:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by tia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋