im 13 my bf is 15 i gave him a bf and he returned the favour..he knows im not ready for sex but he is ...i dont want to have to make him wait i feel really guilty should i talk to him about it???
weve bin goin out 4 2 months i know its really really soon but i reali like him i think i mite love him he can be like my best friend but then he can turn me on lyke ****!!!i cn trust him wiv lots of stuff but im scared tht if i tell him about this he mite gt freaked?!?! cn peeps plz help and give advice please please !!!!!!!!
2006-10-24 01:24:14 · 19 answers · asked by sonix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go back to school and learn how to write first...
2006-10-24 01:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are WAY too young to be having sex... He doesn't need to be having sex either...
You're not making a distinction between love and sex. Love is an emotional bond between two people. Sex is a physical activity.
Do you think that he's going to respect you and love you for a lifetime when he's not even serious enough to wait for you to get old enough to determine what's right for yourself?
Look, one thing about a person that loves you. He doesn't force his will on you. If he wants to have sex with someone, tell him to go ahead.
YOU still want to live a rich and full life. Life has not really started for you. Yet if you keep up with this palooka, you could end up pregnant, with an std, aids.... The other thing is emotional baggage. I feel fairly confident this guy doesn't know what love is. He's saying it just to get what he wants and then he'll be out the door.
I'm not going to tell you how to live your life. You'll have a lot of choices to make. You asked and I'm telling you. If I were in your shoes, I believe I'd try living life a little more before I went out and had sex.
13 is not 35. You've got a LOT of living to do. Just imagine if you start out at 14 with a child. What if you contracted AIDS. What kind of life would you lead then? Dead in your 20s... Whereas if you wait, you have the opportunity to go places, see people, do things that you normally don't get to do.
If he's putting pressure on you, it's not love... Grow up first and find a real man who will love you.
2006-10-24 01:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there things in life that are important and there are those that a very important,some times when you get something i'mpotant you forget that there is very important,Like when you loook at now you,what going on now you can 4get the future,Now at 13 you are not ready for sex and you know it but because you don't want hin to freak out you will do any thing thats not right look at what could happen to you think about tomorrow.Any way you know whats right you just need confamation and thats a good thing think a head.If he love you he will wait $ you.
2006-10-24 01:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The both of you should not even be worried about sex,(BUT I am his age and I know that that is the ONLY thing that there are worried about)honestly you shouldn't have did what you did in the first place but don't let it go any furthur just because you feel that you should to please him. He may be your bf but if he's as in "love" with you as you think he will wait.
Another thing, guys, especially ones in high school have the BIGGEST mouths, they like to brag about stuff like this, he might just tell one person, his best friend and then it'll go on from there. So think about your reputaion before you even consider.
My suggestion DO NOT DO IT and listen to the song S.E.X by Lyfe Jennings.
Dudes will say just about anything to get a a girls panties
2006-10-24 01:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Are you serious? Do you know you can still get STDs by doing that? I hate to offend you sweetie, but at 13, you have no idea what that kind of love is! Why on earth would you feel guilty for being forced into something your'e not ready for? I hope all you parents out there reading this, know where your teens are, and what they're doing! Unbelievable!
2006-10-24 01:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to grow up a lot b/4 you continue on this destructive path.........You have no idea the good things in life that are out there for you......,simply because you are going to let a crush blindsight you.........unless you are ready(you're not) to goof up and become pregnant, make your parents "grandparents", ruin your life as you know it,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Concentrate on being a kid, and goofing off with your girlfriends,,,, ,,,What would your Mom and Dad think of their daughter who is talking about sex and having sex....They would be so hurt to think they are doing a bad job with you, because of your choices..........Do you know about diseases from having unprotected sex ??? Do you know that a lot of people with aids have it because their partner did not tell them they had it ??? Do you also know that aids is deadly?
Do yourself a favor, and your parents, think twice b/4 you do anything.......You will grow up fast enough as it is...Enjoy life.
You have a lot to look forward to like ,,dances, proms, special dinners with that special someone.....Or do you want to miss out on all of that??? It's your choice........good luck hon....Do the right thing
2006-10-24 01:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont feel you want to then dont
sorry to say -- yes you might love him but at 13 its a bit early to know
you should wait --- yes i know you and friends get this all the time it is given in a spirit of kindness as it is a very emotional act and it can be difficult for even adults to handle --- it also shows how much he cares for you if he is prepared to wait then there is something serious there
2006-10-24 01:37:29 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM THE MOTHER OF 13 AND 15 YEAR OLD GIRLS AND I CAN ONLYSAY THAT YOU NEED TO STOP AND THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING. HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT HE DOESN'T HAVE ANY STD'S? DO YOU REALIZE THAT EVERYTIME YOU ARE GIVING THIS SERVICE YOU ARE BELITTLING YOURSELF AND EVEN THOUGH YOU SAY HE RETURNED THE FAVOR HE IS THE ONE WHO IS GETTING THE MOST OF IT..BECAUSE WHEN HE BREAKS UP WITH YOU, YOU ARE GOING TO BE KNOWN AS THE HO OF THE SCHOOL..GUYS SAY WHAT WE WANT THEM TO JUST TO GET WHAT THEY WANT. THEN WHEN ITS OVER AND THEY WANT SOMETHING NEW YOU ARE NOTHING TO THEM. A GUY WHO WANTS SEX AND A BJ AFTER 2 MONTHS ISN'T MUCH TO BRAG ABOUT. RIGHT NOW HORMONES ARE FLYING AND TO SOME PEOPLE ITS THE COOK THING TO DO AND BE KNOWN FOR HAVING DONE, BUT IF YOU GET A STD SEE HOW MANY GUYS WANT YOU THEN. SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT. IF I WAS YOU I'D JUST TELL HIM THAT YOU WANT TO BE BF/GF BUT THE SEX (OF ANY KIND ) AND YES BJ'S ARE A FORM OF SEX NEEDS TO WAIT, AND STICK TO IT. MY OLDEST SAYS SHE WILL NEVER DO THAT COZ ITS TO CLOSE TO HIS BUTTHOLE, NASTY!!!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-24 02:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by kittykitty 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
omg Im so sorry what were you thinking???
you are too younge to think about falling in love
I for one don't believe in it I found the one and we both agree that love is put in our heads so well go crazy and spend money and do stupid things for people
leave the ***** and stay in school and talkto your mom or a sister or some female friend you trust
2006-10-24 01:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by chexmix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your doomed and will become a whore and will prolly get some kind of nasty std before your 16 years old go to school and leave boys alone they dont love you or care about you they eant to use you for a nut!!! Wise up!!!
2006-10-24 02:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋