2006-10-24 01:05:19 · 13 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Never ever gets jealous
2006-10-24 01:07:37 · update #1
Depends--what exactly do you mean by "posessive"? What you call posessiveness might just be your guy trying to protect and look out for his woman; or, it might cross a line somewhere and truly become "creepy". That's why I ask what exactly *you* mean by it.
Sting sang, "If you love someone, set them free (free free set them free)...'" True love can not be posessive. I'll get philosophical for a second (stop reading if you don't want that), and say that's why God gives humans free will. If God is love, He can't be posessive--He has to offer each person their own free will to reject Him. As humans, there's something innate in us that knows this is right--this is the higher call of love--and that's why we expect it from the ones we love most.
2006-10-24 01:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a man can love you without being possessive because love is not all about being possesive you can fall in love with a guy that has nothing at all but may because of the love, trust and mutual understanding being united as one share your problems you can make him possessive
2006-10-24 08:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by gift f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, someone can love you that isn't possessive. However, jealousy is human and we all have that emotion. So, you have to understand that basic emotion in all of us and learn how the man you are with deals with that emotion. Some run, some can talk about it rationally, some get possessive.
2006-10-24 08:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by hearts_and_thoughts_2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Katy,
Not at all possessive... Just exactly what do you want out of the relationship, there are plenty of guys that will be not at all possessive.... That's part of the problem, to be NOT AT ALL possessive, you mean Absolutely NOT possessive... They look at you for sex only and do not commit to a relationship...
In order for a relationship there has to be a certain degree of possession... Without a degree of possession in a relationship, there is no commitment to being in a relationship.
So in order to love you, he has to have a commitment out of you.
The underlying problem is that men and women do not understand what the relationship is. This materialistic society has turned human beings into objects. They love things and use people.
In order for there to be a loving relationship, I have to have a commitment from the other person. I "possess" or "own" a certain part of you. The part that I "possess" or "own" is your commitment to me. Likewise, though you "possess" or "own" a part of me.
What you are looking for is a guy that you enjoy his company and he enjoys your company. It develops into a love for him(it doesn't evolve, you have to work at it) and he in turn loves you. You are not an object of desire. You are not an object of lust. He loves you.
You possess objects. You love people. We, as a society, have turned love into lust because we have turned people into objects.
That way when we do wrong, we won't feel guilty because that person ceases to be human in our materialistic mindset.
If he truly loves you, you'll find it easy to make a commitment and you'll "possess" a certain bit of him as well. You'll notice that he respects you for who you are as a person.
2006-10-24 08:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hy hons gay boyfriends daveey and steevie here why of course, in the course of our hot steamy, 5 year relationship,, early on we set goals, with each other and communicatedd and stil do with each others, problems, dislikes, wants nd desires, others may sweep it under the rug we dont, if something isent right we try too work it out, like they say hons one day at a time-- working at it- we now its hard work and are we committedd!! poosesive people and jealousy wil kill a good thing in any relationship, we dont care who or what it is, we as gays have troubles too like anyone else.
2006-10-24 08:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My bf is the same way and at first it bothered me real bad. I thought he didn't care for me at all, but I have learned that that is just how he is and it is great! I know he loves me very much and I love him. Yes, it is possible. You just have to learn that there are guys out there that trust their women. Get used to it and you'll soon see that is is a good thing.
2006-10-24 08:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by ceecee_41004 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is secure in himself, YES. If u love him, u will give him no reason to ever mistrust you and u guys should have a great life together.
2006-10-24 08:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by Rudy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone gets jealous. The trick is, is he confident enough so that it does not affect him and the relationship.
And let's be serious, if he didn't get a little jealous, you would accuse him of not caring.................
2006-10-24 08:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, Why not? Let's be part time lovers. That way, we won't get sick of one another quite as fast.
2006-10-24 08:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes.. my gf and i have been together for 8 months i love her and i am not posessive at all
2006-10-24 08:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by dodgeforlife1982 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋