2006-10-24 00:56:42 · 11 answers · asked by FireFighter96 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Update:
the reason they don't like it is becuse we took a break, for like three months and she dated a guy and i did not date anyone
2006-10-24 01:26:48 · update #1
You still have a long time to think again your decision. The main reason to get married is to make you happy, not your family. But if they are really unhappy, they certainly have known something not clear about your partner. Talk to them. It's also a way to make your family relationship more closer.
2006-10-24 01:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by MGG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are an adult, their opinions really don't matter. Go on with planning your wedding. But, if your family is important to you I would recommend talking to them calmly and rationally, asking questions like: Do you disapprove of me getting married, or me getting married to _____?, What about ____ do you not approve of?, why do you feel like this is a bad choice? These specific questions can help you see some things that you might not have realized and put your union in perspective. Your family may have concerns that you can work out before the wedding, or they may have good points that will make you consider calling it off. You will want to know their reasoning and then work from there.
Good Luck!
2006-10-24 08:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your image and name are male, I'm assuming you're the groom -- which means traditionally the wedding takes place where the bride wants it and her family is financially responsible for it.
So what is family not happy about? Do they dislike your fiancee? Are you very young? Do you have a job which can support married life? Have you interrupted your education to get married?
You should definitely TALK to your immediate family about their concerns. Do you truly, madly, deeply love your fiancee? Then you need to get that across to your family (in a calm, reasoned, mature way).
Bottom line: it's your life and your love. If you're as sure as anyone can be that you're marrying for love and, in principle, for life (that's what the vows say...also for richer and poorer and in sickness and in health...), then, bless the two of you with a long and happy, healthy life together.
2006-10-24 08:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by pat z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't stated the reason for your family not being happy with you getting married. Maybe they feel you are too young or immature or maybe they just don't want to give up their baby. Hang in there! These things have a way of straightening themselves out over time. Maybe your girlfriend should spend more time with your family and hopefully they'll see why you fell in love with her too.
2006-10-24 08:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by I'manalienfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I see why their upset well there is nothing you can do they either accept your decision or they don't. They probably feel that after a few months of getting married that your soon to be wife might want a divorce. They just want to be happy that's all. So its up to them to like your decision or not. Good luck.
2006-10-24 08:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by i♥hottguys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I am in this EXACT situation!! My family all wants me not to get married and even maybe find someone else. You gotta think this....you love her and want to be with her...do what YOU want to do. Listen to no one else but yourself. If you have ANY doubts, not because of your family, but because its doesn't feel right then you might want to re-think it....otherwise do what you want to do and if your family cannot except it then they really don't care about what makes you happy now do they? Good luck!
2006-10-24 10:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
might not be a popular answer but you age could have a lot to do with it. It's a lot different if your 21 or 32, you know what I mean.
Your parents would be more protective at 21 and might see things that you can't.
2006-10-24 08:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you not your family. It's their problem so let them get on and deal with it. If they love you at all then they'll realise this and respect your decision
2006-10-24 09:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really does matter if your family like it or not the point is that if your happy
2006-10-24 10:51:41 · answer #9 · answered by TOP MODEL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why they are not happy about it...
2006-10-24 08:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋