my parents don't get along and everytime I try to finish a fight, one thinks i'm taking the side of the other person, and it makes everything worst. But they don't wanna get divorced.
2006-10-24 00:42:56 · 11 answers · asked by nickname 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no. 1 you dont get into the middle no matter what if its physical call police or family member. verbal go to your room or family or a friends house . who ever is the calmest to talk to let them know you are concerned . ask them if they would be both willing to get counseling,since they dont want a divorce. tell them honestly and respectfully how this situation is affecting you. this is not a healthy envirment for anyone. good luck, remember be calm when you talk no cussing, no accuseing anyone of starting it.
2006-10-24 02:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they're acting like children and if they can't get along you're going to put them in time out.
You don't say if you're under 18 or over...there probably isn't anything you can do no matter your age. From now on, let them fight their fights and stay out of it. Or brood. Pout and act like a child yourself until they see your unhappiness is a result of their behavior.
2006-10-24 00:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how it makes you feel and don't try to finish their fights. Just try to stay out of their way. I know it is hard to do, but just leave the room when it starts. You can't really control what your parents say or do, but you can control yourself...leave them alone and tell them to sort their problems out on their own.
2006-10-24 00:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by ceecee_41004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what u said, it seems that u do matter to them when u open yr mouth cos each party thinks you're taking sides. best if you can help your parents to resolve this. on occasions that you're able to speak to each of them alone, tell them in private how hurt u're by their fighting. also, u didnt mention what usually is the problem for their fights. if they wan to get divorced, they wud hv done that already. they're adults. dun suggest divorce to them when they're fighting. they shud go see a counsellor.
2006-10-24 01:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by margh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number 1. Tell them it's THEIR fight, not yours and that you will stay out of it. Number 2. Pack up all your stuff and get the hey out of there! And the sooner you do that, the better.
2006-10-24 00:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...that's a tough situation to be in! Go to your parents one at a time. Tell them how this is affecting you, and that it really hurts! You don't give your age, but if you are old enough to move out, go ahead and do it! Leave them to their misery!
2006-10-24 00:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got study, and re-study, your question. And, first, i think of you're doing the spectacular concern in splitting up. As to who your son continues to be with, you're lower back top in determining what you think of is great to your son. As for the "different"woman. on the 2nd, she is in a detention centre. Your (ex) husband and her may be getting on super by way of way of email/letters/visits yet issues can substitute once you honestly 'stay' with somebody. basically time will tell on that one, yet whilst he has had 'affairs' till now, then it stands to reason that it extremely is rather possibly he will accomplish that lower back. no rely what woman he's with and despite the fact that if he's married or no longer. you're saying which you like the girl that your husband is proceeding to be with and which you apart from mght like her babies. according to hazard it extremely is extremely not so undesirable. in spite of everything, if and once you do separate/divorce, and/if he does set up domicile together with her, then, lower back, that's greater effective than rather possibly that your son with stay together with his father, her, and youngsters at cases. no longer something is worse than a baby being in between 2 'at conflict', arguing, unsociable or, worse, no longer conversing, parents. If there is not any animosity then you definitely would be happy and comfy whilst your son does have those cases together with his father and be waiting to freely ask what he has been doing, did he take excitement in himself and so on., and so on., you will get lots of people who think of you're 'mad', stupid or despite the fact that, yet, it is your life, and, for my section, you do despite the fact that makes YOU, YOUR SON and his father's life happiest and maximum mushy. a minimum of your son is conscious he has 2 parents that love and view him and his thoughts. i wish that in the time of time, your separation/divorce and so on., is going as mushy as obtainable, and which you eventually locate somebody YOU and your son is additionally happy with. pass which includes your heart and intestine feeling, and that i'm valuable issues will artwork out merely super. stable success Christine
2016-11-25 01:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by reel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your job to fix them! Tell them this is hurting you more than helping you! I have always heard the best thing you can give your kids is a loving and caring relationship for yourself and I believe this is true!
2006-10-24 00:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they lost something that they need back in a hurry thier friendship he should be her best friend and she should be his, if you want to try to help both of them find out what was done in the past that drove them apart and then work from there to fix it . I hope this helps
2006-10-24 00:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by money maker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let them know how you feel and that its not fair to the family to live with this stress. Suggest family counseling.
2006-10-24 00:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋