im 22 and i've never even kissed a girl b4(passionately). I d'nt want to end up 'using' someone, bt hv'nt ny1 worth gving all. should i try dating even if im nt really interested at least gain some experiance (nt nesecerly sxual)???
2006-10-24 00:23:05 · 16 answers · asked by watsdat? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My advice is that you do things that you enjoy, and don't even worry about dating. My experience is that when you're just doing what you like to do, not actively looking for dates, thats when someone who is "right" will come along, someone who has similar interests to yours. You will just "know" when that happens, by what is called "gut instinct," or intuition. There are some girls out there who will appreciate that you're not experienced about dating, they will see you as someone who isn't "out just to score," etc. In many parts of the world, people haven't had any intimate experience at all until marriage. So you are perfectly normal and someone will appreciate the fact that you don't want to just use somebody, but are waiting for someone truly right to come into your life.
2006-10-24 00:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by TheSnakeWhisperer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take action! This obviously bothers you, and it's a natural concern how we all deal with the opposite sex and the people we are attracted to. Girls are pretty and thee is nothing wrong with wanting to touch and feel them and spend time with them. Advisors who just say : let nature take its course and dont hurry into anything, perhaps dont share your personal concern. If you sit on the fence and never take any action, you will be an old bachelor someday. Then you might have some real hang-ups!
I had just kissed a few girls but by 19, hadn't gone "all the way", and my male roommate made me feel there was something wrong with me, so I did go down to the bad side of town one night and deliberately looked for a tramp, and she was easy to be with, just insisted I get a case of beer and a hotel room. In retrospect I should have done that years earlier, as it gave me much more confidence and I finally had a clue what it was all about.
You do want to have some kind of tact and skill when the Miss Right does come along for you.....You wont be "using someone", as you put it if you don't deceive them. Go to the girls who use men all the time, and give them what they want: money, and nobody gets hurt. Just try to find a sensitive one who will be easy to be with the first time....we all had a first time....but don't wait forever.
I am an older married man now, but I had some very anxious times when I was younger and the sooner you get some confidence and experience in this area, the less bothered you will be about the whole thing....you pay the long distance phone call, I can offer you some practical advise.
Good luck.
2006-10-24 07:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by cbmaclean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good person! Who never did any thing like that. Still continue and stay away, untill you marry some one and then proceed forward as you wish! That is the quality of right people.
2006-10-24 07:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, I'm 19 and never been kissed. so your not the only person. and second, if you don't think your ready to date...then don't. So just have fun and don't worry about it. One day your future wife will come. Or just meet a girl and just be friends with her and maybe something will happen.
2006-10-24 07:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by blueangel182006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless ya, do what every makes YOU happy! Don't do what people tell ya to do! If ya want experience go out and get it at 22 there is plenty of places you can go, but if your happy the way you are don't worry about it!
2006-10-24 07:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might find out that having a women is better then using your hand. Then again some people think there is no greater love then self love.
2006-10-24 07:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess that is uncommon, but not abnormal! Maybe you are just very picking, and that's okay! Of course you should date people. If you don't, you might miss that special someone you've been waiting for! Good luck!
2006-10-24 07:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 22 I would think you are old enough to go on dates if you are not too busy and can fit it into your schedule. Enjoy love!
2006-10-24 07:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you want to spend the rest of your life single... then yes i think you should start dating! experience is the best way so that when you find the right one you will already know how to treat her and all that stuff in a relationship
2006-10-24 07:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by janice.d.soldier.sista 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why waste her time dating if you're not interested? Go out with your friends. Have a good time. Enjoy life. When you're ready, date.
2006-10-24 07:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by wuxxler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋