Women do you chose financial security over love?

Question

Just wondering if the size of someones bank account makes them more or less attractive.
Is finacial security part a relationship? Or should money not matter ? Honest answers please.

Answer 1

No way..love rules over money every time!!!

Answer 2

I couldn't help but answer this question because I am in a bit of a situation where my boyfriend is having financial difficulties. However, he's a great boyfriend and makes me really happy so he's perfect in every other way apart from the financial side!

I asked a question recently about what to do if your boyfriend is crap with money but perfect in every other way? Almost every response was to ditch him and move on. So I guess it depends how you phrase the question.

Financial security is important of course but in my opinion, it is no where near as important as a loving, trusting relationship. As long as you have enough money to pay the bills and eat, what more do you need other than love.

Answer 3

personally, i dont think it matters on the size of a bank account. it certainly shouldnt, after all if its your bank account we're talking about then surely thats YOUR money and nothing to do with the lady in question. if people are shallow enough to dismiss someone on the grounds his bank account isnt big enough then they'll never be happy. money isn't the be all and end all. certainly not for me anyway, it doesnt make them more or less attractive, theres some dodgy women out there that give the rest of us a bad name, it works the other way as well tho, some men are only interested in what women can offer them materialistically. relationships are a partnership. you work together.

Answer 4

Well to be honest, I cant see why you would want to know this answer because every body is going to give you a different answer and depending on how a person feels about you, you cannot tell if their answer is honest or not! I guess the thing to do, is to keep your private affairs as private and look at her general attitudes and behaviour. You can very soon tell if she is materialistic or shallow or not. Personally for me, so long as the guy can look after himself and is not still with mum and dad, then that's good enough for me! I can also admit, that guys who let on to me huge wealth etc, I find a little arrogant and a little intimidating, especially if they are flash. At the end of the day, if you have really got something to boast about, then frankly, you don't need to boast about it do you!!

Answer 5

I thought financial security mattered, and still do to a certain extent, but not when it comes to finding your soulmate. I met my husband 3 years ago and we married last year. I had in my mind that I wanted to marry someone with at least the same amount of financial security I had (we are of mature years), but my husband came to me with loads of debts which we are struggling to pay off. It matters not because we love each other deeply and he is my soulmate which is worth more than all the money and financial security in the world.

Answer 6

I choose financial security over love when I'm the one making myself financially secure. I'd rather work than have a relationship. Having a career makes you feel useful and accomplished — relationships make you feel insecure and needy. And I don't want to need any man.

Answer 7

Money does make life easier but personally I don't take the size of a bank account into consideration. It's the person that you love not the money.

Answer 8

it should matter.
At least the person should be dedicated and hard working.
And you should be able to get along and bring out the best in each other.
The partner should be educated and be a hard worker.
Even if you love someone and he can't support u or ur future family, then there's gonna be dissatisfaction along the way which always makes things ugly.
Once u marry someone, u have to stick by them for good times or bad.

Answer 9

For me it doesn't matter. I earn much more than my husband!! So maybe he's married me for my money lol. But serously it still does happen that some women will go for the 'security' to be honest in most cases it's not security it's greed!

Answer 10

for me it doesn't matter.

it fact right now we have had to move into my fellas parents house (my mother in law is driving my insane) because we can't afford to rent or buy any where. in some ways it would be easier if i had a rich boyfriend, but that doesn't matter as i love him very much. We've been together for three years and we've always joked that at least he knows I'm not with him for his money.

At the end of the day you can't buy love and neither should you try to.

Answer 11

I have my own financial security I don't need a man for money, if I was too settle down it would be for love.