We broke up but still love each other. It is a long story, but because of circumstances , we can't be together right now.
Why does he call me and cuss me out at 4am....2pm....and then at midnight....he is hysterically crying and telling me to save him ....he is dying....can't live without me......but then again at 8am....I hate you....you are a whore....you used me.....and so on and so on.....He says he is going out to "get some" and is tired of being lonely...we have been apart 3 months.....but then at night....the crying and suicide attempts start....I am afraid to turn off my phone forever....what if he does do something stupid? He told me he quit taking his diabetic medicine and he was in bad shape. He keeps asking me to come check on him. He's dying.
What do I do? I know if I go there....it will be hard to leave him.
He has no friends or family. He is fifty years old. WHat do I do?
He is the only man I have ever loved and has loved me back. That is why this is so hard
2006-10-23 23:18:43 · 8 answers · asked by lucy p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds mentally unstable and manipulative. He is using his health issue as a weapon against you. I doubt that he really loves you. Change your phone number and make a break from him. Its not your problem that he has no friends and family.
If you love him then it will be difficult but for your own emotional well being you need to do it.
2006-10-23 23:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by huggz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, you two broke up for a reason. Second, all of these things he's saying are manipulative. He's giving you a good dose of guilt sprinkled with abuse. You ask "what if he does something stupid?" He's already doing stupid things. If you want him back take him back, but ignore all of this nonsense he's harassing you with.
2006-10-24 06:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to make you feel guilty. He is trying to get you there. He doesn;t sound like a good man. He is sick mentally. Men shouldnt call you those names ever. Simply say goodbye to him, tell him to leave you alone, turn the phone off, stop contact with him, and move on.
If you don't he will ruin your life.
2006-10-24 06:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand the reality yourself. He must have found a good caretaker in you. You age is not mentioned if you are near to him OK but less by good margin, he must be wanting you for everything for the sake of day-night fluctuating attitude, may or may not be believed. A person is his best judge, here it is you.
2006-10-24 06:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sense that there is a significant age difference...
He sounds like he needs psychiatric help from a proffessional. I would see whats available, if you are truly concerned that he will hurt himself or others and you love this man you need to look into getting him some help. It sounds like he has problems you couldn't (and shouldn't be expected to) solve.
2006-10-24 06:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by nevermind_my_id 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is giving you a guilt trip and you have fallen for it hook line and sinker. Go on with your life and stop answering the phone. He will eventually stop calling and go on about his marry way.
2006-10-24 06:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GO THERE!!!!!!! I'm not sure his brand of "love" is healthy. In fact, I know it's not -- not when he verbally abuses you and manipulates you. He needs counseling, and you need to CHANGE your phone number! PLEASE!
2006-10-24 06:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by bibliophile31 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
drive him crazy tooooooo......LOL
2006-10-24 10:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by Cute Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋