My daughter is 8 years old and I have a 5 month old also. My 8 year old is not listening. I can tell her something 10-20 times before she MIGHT do what ever it is. In public she is great, listens the first time, has perfect manners and is just excellent, but at home it is awful. My husband and I are both getting extremely frustrated with it. I have tried timeouts, sent to room, taking things away, and grounding her from the park behind our house. Any suggestions on discipline that works?
2006-10-23 23:14:56 · 5 answers · asked by katbeek 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Never tell her to do or stop doing anything more than once. Create positive responses to good behvior and consequences tht you never bend on. It's not so much what you do, but that YOU DO IT CONSISTANTLY. If you say something 20 times, she knows she has 20 chances to listen to you. That's 19 too many.
2006-10-23 23:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by The Dave 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 3, 7, and 10 year old girls. Try this, tell her the rules are now changed. You are back in the driver seat. She will now obey you.
Explain that you will only ask her one time, and you expect her to do as asked. Now if she doesn't the first time, then take something if importance away from her for a week. This should do the trick. If not, and you do have to ask a third time, you should give her a spanking. Tell her to go to her room, take her pants down put her over your lap for about a dozen or more good sharp spanks to the bottom. After she is calm explain that she is to do as she is told. From here on, I guarantee you she won't make it back to the third warning, you may take things away for a while, but that's about it.
Hold true to this tactic and you will see a different girl in a matter of weeks. this is her way of taking control of the situation, and running your life, the way she sees fit. Don't let this happen.
Being a mom, I know this sounds harsh, please trust me, it works!! Make sure dad is on the same page, and doing his share of the spankings.
Best of luck to you
2006-10-23 23:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
When you take things away from her for not listening tell her she can have it back when she does something good.. (Listening to you) Make a chart get some stickers when she does something good put a sticker on it.. When the chart is full for a week reward her.
2006-10-23 23:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read 'how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk.'
this book is great, helps you avoid power struggles, lets you regain control of your house, and teaches you how to guide your child to self-discipline. I utterly love this book; it's well illustrated, so you can learn almost on the run, not slogging through pages of theory.
you might also want to consider the impact the 5 month old is having on her life. i imagine she's pretty furious about it.
2006-10-24 01:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Consistency is the key.Whatever you do you have got to be consistent and firm.I have four kids(8,7,5&3)
2006-10-24 02:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋