Whenever my partner and I eat out in an Indian. The male waiters always ask him if everything is ok with the food. My partner works a lot in India and says woman are 2nd class over there. However, this is the West and I think it's common courtesy to ask if Im enjoying my food and as I pay for it half the time. Happened again at the w/e and really peed me off!
2006-10-23 22:58:17 · 33 answers · asked by Annie M 6 in Food & Drink ➔ Other - Food & Drink
Send the restaurant a snotty letter telling them that women are not second class citizens in this country and we don’t like being treated like them and to pass that message onto its entire staff.
2006-10-23 23:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by carla s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you generalise about a country and its culture based on your personal perception at a restaurant in a different country.
I have found waiters very courteous generally in Indian restaurants and most so called Indian restaurants, are actually run by Bangladeshis(which is a different country incase you did n't know), so its not essentially Indian, is it? When you say women are 2nd class in India, however did you surmise that? India has already had an elected woman prime minister, Mrs Indira Gandhi, while US is yet to elect a woman to the helm. Shall we presume then that Americans dont consider women to be smart enough to lead a country? What pisses me off is ignorant generalisations about people and cultures and hopefully this will make you think twice.
2006-10-23 23:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are classed as second class citizens in quite a few countries and India is one of them, Saudi is another However things are changing!
Whats the betting that the US will shortly have a woman president and her name may be some thing that sounds like you would eat it with an Indian curry ( Condolisa Rice).
Next time it happens when you pay the bill don't leave a tip.
2006-10-23 23:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by Nippo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go to Indian restaurants a lot and this has never happened to me. Maybe it is the ones you're going to or they're assuming you're on a date and he's paying. My favorite Indian restaurant sees me there with different people all of the time and they usually ask me first how the food is, applaud my choice in menu selection, and never assume who is going to pay. Maybe it's because they know me and I have a very unforgettable look (flaming red curly hair) that they know what my situation is and how to treat me.
I think you're just being paranoid. Walk in like you own the place and you're wearing the pants (with the credit card in them) and you might be treated differently. Either that or find a restaurant that isn't so sexist.
2006-10-23 23:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that indian waiters usually address the table as a whole,but if there is just 2 of you it may be out of respect for you and your husband.He does not want to appear to be over familiar with you whilst your husband is there.
Try and view this as a positive thing.I generally find that Indian people are very polite.
They have to put up with a lot worse from us.
2006-10-24 01:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In India a man wont usually address a woman he doesnt know if shes with another man. It works the other way round too, if anything more noticeably, as when we were in India women would come over to chat to my wife and totally ignore me for the entire conversation, not even including me in their goodbyes!
2006-10-23 23:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you eat at foreign restaurants, they are bringing their culture to the west (you were experiencing Indian food and culture first hand). At least you know you won't enjoy India for a holiday!
2006-10-23 23:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by Bruce d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one Indian restuarant where I live. I went there with another woman. We were treated very graciously, but I do not know if the waiter would have ignored me if I was with a man.
2006-10-23 23:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an Indian woman, I would feel happy if this happens to me as I respect my man and I would be proud of him if everyone else respects him and cares for him more and I wouldn't mind if he is honored wherever he goes. That shows the great love and affection an Indian woman feels for her counterpart. A sacrificing gesture perhaps.
There is no question of equality or women's lib or any monetary considerations when it comes to feelings.
2006-10-23 23:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hasn't happened to me -- yet!
Next time, rather than getting pissed off and ruining (for you) what otherwise might have been a great meal, why not just jump into the conversation with, "Yes, I thoroughly enjoyed it too!"
What DOES happen consistently is the check is ALWAYS given to my husband (even though I'm usually the one who has gone to the ATM and has the cash to cover the meal). The change is almost always given to him too even though I pay! (I just scoop it up and think, silly waiter!)
2006-10-23 23:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋