How can i make my present relationship work if i am more mature than my man?? I am more mature than him spiritually...He's also a Christian, but his spiritual life, for a long time, remained stagnant... i find it really hard to encourage him in the Lord... He's developed a stubborn and hard heart... what should i do?? Any words of advice would be greatly appreciated... Thanks! God bless=)
2006-10-23 22:50:04 · 3 answers · asked by Corin 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
For me it was the other way around- my husband and his family were the religious ones and I grew up in a very judgemental catholic household where really no other religions were accepted. What he did for me was him and his family took me to church and I was pregnant and a preacher prayed for me. After that we began talking a lot about it and I was also very stubborn and fought with him over my cathoilc beliefs and his pentacostal beliefs. Adventually over time I stopped being so judgemental and actually listened to what he had to say and showed me some verses in the bible and it really hit me like a ton of bricks and Praise the Lord I became a born again christian and decided to change my religion from catholic to penticostal- the point of my story is to tell you to keep talking to him and give him a little time since it took me atleast 2 years to open my heart to the Lord.It is not an easy road especially since you are trying to get your man into it and it will be hard but just pray about it and ask him to join you in church and take it from there. Ask him how he liked it and share scriptures with him. It is not going to happen over night but keep trying. Since he is already a christian he should know the power of the Lord. Just pray for him and try to get him on the right path but if he is not willing then just leave it in the Lord's hands. Good Luck and God Bless. You will be in my prayers!!
2006-10-24 00:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by erinfitz831 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a man for ya'. Get smarter than they are, & they just get mad...
If he's the one God intended for you to marry, he'll gain his maturity and be the head of the household. Best to wait & see, before you make the final decision.
You don't want a husband that completely discounts your opinion, but you don't want one you have to spoon-feed everyday either.
Pray about him, and seek counsel from other Christian women (a man's POV couldn't hurt either). Help him when he asks for it, but don't shove your knowledge down his throat.
In specific matters, make sure you present the doctrine, not just your opinion or understanding of it.
A couple's retreat could be helpful, or even counseling, if he'd agree to it.
Again, pray & ask God to lead you in the right direction. This may not be the man for you...
2006-10-24 06:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by azar_and_bath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both attend church maybe he could get involved with Men's ministries, a Bible study, or small groups where he can be discipled and grow into his role of the spiritual head of the house.
Pray for that!
2006-10-24 05:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by creationrocks2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋