I cannot talk to him about the sexual abuse that made me have multiple personalities. It would feel or be traumatizing. Should I request a therapist change to a female? Or is that rude?
2006-10-23 22:36:28 · 8 answers · asked by catzrme 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
No, it's not rude to ask for a change of therapists under those conditions. It's quite sensible. In fact, it's not rude to ask for a change for any reason at all.
I was in a hospital once and was assigned to an attractive female shrink. Only thing is, I had issues to discuss about my weight and my looks more generally. Having her sit there, looking so smug with her long blond hair and her long slim legs crossed in my face, I could not believe she would be able to help me. She was the enemy, as far as I was concerned. I asked for a new therapist and later the new therapist confessed that their boss had originally assigned her to see how I would react. To see if I would be able to talk to her, would act out resentments about her, or would be bisexual enough to come on to her. I did none of those things; I just asked for someone else, and this was taken as a measure of my maturity.
2006-10-23 22:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is already suspected why you are having troubles, and the hospital, before you leave, gives you a male therapist because a female one couldn't help you--you personally--as much at that point in time as if you got the female one you think you're more comfortable with. They intend to let you switch later, but just want to get it out of you, if you're a minor, if you have been abused.
If you are NOT a minor, there is not much you can do about it except clam up and don't talk to the male. (Sorry.) However, asking for the female might in that case be more difficult again for a different reason, that of maybe less are on staff, maybe some aren't as expert yet on your issues or don't feel they could help much, etc. What you can do if that happens is try to find out a woman friendly clinic and ask them to refer you to the kindest female they know of, even if it's not in your county.
It's not rude to ask for a female, but I think, unless you have a husband who is too jealous for his and your own good, you should try sticking with the male. It will be like getting to practice the relationship you should have had with whoever hurt you, and it will be a safe environment and he won't let anything bad happen to you. He will help you get over your issues and you will hopefully be healthy and whole.
Do as you feel though, and good luck.
2006-10-23 23:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have the right to be treated with a female if that is what you want. This is not rude. Ask for the change today. The treatment is suppose to help you and if you can't talk to a male then the treatment is not going to be much use to you and can even be harmful to you. It is your money.
Hospitals assign you to whatever doctor is next on the list for a new client. They do not assign you to a doctor based on what they think your needs are. Ask yourself how much information they had on you prior to your partial hospitalization. Probably none to minimal. Hospitals have doctors that work for different insurance companies. Whoever is on the list next is chosen for your care. You pay the insurance company and have the right to the doctor and therapist of your choice that works for the insurance company.
2006-10-24 04:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by apes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your health, so if you don't feel that the arrangement is what you need change it. Most medical service people understand and wish you the best, if you ask for another doctor. Ask for a referral if you don't have someone else in mind, just say you would prefer a female therapist.
2006-10-23 22:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by jadeaaustin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can switch but it wont really help you.Because you would be avoiding the fact that you have trust issues with men.The fact your uncomfortable is part of your trauma.I myself was sexually abused and I know the way you deal with it is different for everyone,But you may heal more fully when you are able to "trust" sharing your pain with a man And since he is a Dr. and your in a "safe" environment I think that is the best place to start.Good luck.
2006-10-23 23:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by dnice 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Y cant u talk to a male therapist abt the sexual abuse?He's a doctor, but if ur not comfortable, i think its perfectly fine to request for a female therapist, they'll understand.
2006-10-23 22:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Sunrise 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
i think that male or female therapist is aiso okay bcause this type of problem already use to them and they won't laugh at you.just take it easy.but custome always right and health is important than eveything so if you really can't except that male therapist find a female one la.
2006-10-23 22:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't think that that would be rude at all. you have the right to choose whoever therapist you like. someone you'd be more comfortable talking to.
2006-10-23 23:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by ^crash_&_burn^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋