Ok what happened is that i just started dating a guy...we were alone at my place...he was willing to kiss me..but i told him "not so soon" cz i was not comfortable that time cz just started dating n i wanted to get to know him more....but then ok he started kissing on my cheeks n all...i didnt stop him...but then he slowly started movin towards my lips...i stopped him...but he like started forcing a kiss on my lips!!!...n thankgod i somehow didnot let it happen....but before i realized he was like all over me...n lifting my top n all....i tried to stop him all the time...but he didnt...it was only when he lifted my top up n saw the nipple, did he move back....when he moved back...obviously i kinda had a tear in my eye....seeing that he said"sorry".
What is wrong with this guy?doesnt he now how to respect a girls feelings?
Should i leave him? he says sorry to me now?
Y did he force on me like that?
2006-10-23 21:52:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are his first date, it might be because of curiosity and the excitement of being with you alone that made him do that. I am not justifying his behaviour. If you were not his first date, he is crazy about sex than love and friendship. Forcing you into something you don't like is lack of respect for you, and it will not develop into a healthy relationship. He got what he wanted, and what does a sorry do to compensate you. If one is really sorry, he won't try to do it in the first place. If you still want to give this relationship a try, you need to make the message clear to him that you are not at all happy with his behaviour and that you were hurt. Keep a distance from here on and gauge him and see if he is really interested in you or in your body. Or if your mind is asking you to get out of it, do so.
2006-10-23 22:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by thayilonline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH WOW!! I raised one son and two daughters. First of all, I have to ask; WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARENTS? If you were uncomfortable with the kiss, then he should have been raised well eough to know that NO MEANS NO. However, if he seemed genuinely sorry for what happened then, MAYBE, give him another chance. I am always on the side the the female, however, if he is a really descent guy, and given bad advice by the very rude and stupid guy, then maybay he deserves another chance. my main advice to you is "NO MATTER WHAT YOU'R AGE, YOU SHOULD ALWAYS FEEL COMFORTABLE TALKING WITH WITH YOUR MOTHER AND POSSIBLE YOUR FATHER. This computer thing is OK for an overall outlook, but what happens in a pinch and you really need someone ASAP!! you need to have an open communication with your parents or an open communication with a very trusted friend and also have their telephone number on your speed dial!!
2006-10-24 05:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by 73firstlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The basis for any lasting relationship is "trust". You tell him what you believe in, so he knows where you're coming from and where he will be standing, (on the other side of the door) if he ever does again, what he shouldn't have tried to take from you on any date, without your say-so. Disrespect is given. Respect is earned. Make the line distinct and electric, so that when you take the leash off of the hungry dog, he will still know his limits and he's not as apt to attack the poodle on the other side of the invisible electric line (fence), because what he would stand to lose by not respecting your line, he'd know he deserved because he willfully violated your trust. Does this make sense to you???
2006-10-24 05:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by gloop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He forced you because you led him on by taking him home. (Alone) However, that's not an excuse. How old are you? If you're under 16, WHY are you taking guys back to your place? If over 16, you need to think seriously about this.
Either way, self-defense classes are an ideal way to make sure you can get OUT of some dangerous situations that you manage to find yourself in... and by the looks of this question, you're going to need them. Do that now.
Luck
Pauline
2006-10-24 05:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by Peblz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy acts in this manner, he is only after sex and will dump you as soon as he drills you. So go ahead and let him go now. Even if you feel like he is the only date you got. Its no good. When you come across one that wont do you like that, as in a guy will not try anything if he really like you because he wants you to know he likes you for more than that, respect...so get that one away from you now...
2006-10-24 04:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why should u take him to ur place when u r ogather only for a short time, let alone u two being alone in ur place. Is this ur first bf for gods sake??? how can u trust a guy so quickly?? i wont even take a girl to my place tht quick. And yes, u should dump him, no second chance for a self control less moran like him.........
2006-10-24 05:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Cute_guy_24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were his first, there is some understanding as to why he did it. Probably because of society's expectations on what he should accomplish early on in dating, or because of his unccontrable desire towards someone so attractive.
But still, if you said stop and he continued, then there is something wrong with him. If he apologizes to you and then continues to try and "get inside you", leave him. Immediately. All he wants then is some action. Instead, he should give you the "right of way".
He wants something and you have it. It is only fair to ask permission before taking.
2006-10-24 04:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by ozarugold51 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should leave him, not only because he is abusive, but because he is obviously only concerned about his own interests and will not likely be concerned about yours. This can lead to no where.
However, I would caution you to be respectful in dumping someone who has these abusive tendencies. You should be straightforward, but be sensitive to his feelings as you would not like to deal with him lashing out at you later.
I assume you are young and living with parents still?... if so, talk to your parents about it ...let them know what's going on. If not, call your parents and talk to your friends about it for support.
Above all, never let someone abuse you in this way and get away with it. It is not fair to you and it will not help him to correct his behavior.
2006-10-24 05:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by euphony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him. It sounds like you are both very young. He needs to learn that there are consequences to his actions. It may already be too late. I don't know if a born rapist can change. Be glad that he didn't go any further and do your best to avoid this kind of situation in the future.
2006-10-24 04:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by Kuji 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave that one alone if it were me. If he had any respect for you he would have backed off far before raising your shirt up. Honestly why be with someone who has no respect for you or your wishes? Sounds like a pervert and a desperate one at that, I wouldn't just walk away I would run!
-NmD!
2006-10-24 04:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋