Can childhood events effect they way I feel now?

Question

Hi. I don't want to give anyone a sob story, but I had an unfortunate incident actually, many unfortunate incidents happen to me when I was a child. Many forms of abuse. including sexual abuse. Sometimes I have edisodes of anger and resentment. But that was over 20 years ago.

Answer 1

Yes, they can. Two terms I can think of off the top of my head " Assosiation" & " Post Trumatic Stress Disorder Syndrome" (some people drop the Disorder or the Syndrome).

Some people, and animals (lab animals obviously), have something negative assosiated to something but they don't know why and some might think it is normal. It can be a sense or an emotion or a sensation. Like you might recognize fire as Hot because your finger will feel like when you burnt it once. It's not really an event you remember,.. just that. Other things you could assosiate or Smell, Taste, Memory (like a person or object), a creeping feeling up your back,.. etc.

Post Trumatic Stress is different,.. you may suddenly sink back into a memory and the environment at the time, deeper and deeper until reality is blocked out,.. but that's when it's at it's worse,.. you are back at the bad place and the bad thing is happening.



You may want to establish this that you want to be positive as new and something completely different,.. if you can. I'll just make up something off topic so that you don't think about on topic too much,.. maybe you had a pet for a couple days and it died and everyone was so sad and it's old owners were sad,.. so everything about a pet has become negative and sad.. and nothing but death and loss... even though you weren't really close that was how everything was weighed down by the people around you. But now you are about to have a new life of a new pet or baby,.. this is NEW,.. not just something new,.. but the ultimate in brand new.... and it's about to happen,.. but you still have that memory of loss connected to this,.. well you need to switch to NEW,.. this is a different life, this is a brand new beginning,.. and that which died you shouldn't have been attached to in the first place and was at a point you may never see this NEW life at,.. it was at Death,.. it was at the end,.. it was sick or dieing or injured,.. there was nothing that could be done,.. but this is Fresh, you can help this,.. this is a completely different experience to gain.

It can be hard to do, and I am usually too hard to follow,.. but maybe this will help you think a little. Whatever you are getting into now should in no way be the same as before,.. and if it is then this may be wrong (which alot of people fall into that have been abused because the real things like love and affaction are different from what they have gone through).

Answer 2

Hi, I have worked with folks who suffered from the same things you are talking about.

Understandably, when it happened so long ago, there is a sob story because of the anchored pain that lives on. Until the distorted energy is discharged, leaving room for newness. The emotional pain stays right where it is.

Drugging a wounded person is no more than a band-aid solution, which is no solution at all. Who wants to exchange pain for addiction and I will tell you the many people I have worked with, would love nothing more than to get off of all the medical prescriptions they were put on. The medication did not get rid of anything, it is still there.

There are methods of therapy which address the old energy without needing to talk about the details. This allows a person the privacy to heal within themselves.

Healing is not about the story and the details. Talk therapy is as addictive as medications. For every person I asked if they would like the "bad feelings" to be gone now, or would they like to talk about it. They most often love to talk about it as they become addicted to the chemical mix that is created every time the subject is brought up.

This is not a bad thing which people do, it is a real thing. I always say, by the time a person discovers the work I do, they are ready to heal. They are ready to stop talking about it and get the garbage out for once and all. Regain freedom and create a wonderful life.

By the way, all the childhood events you had, good and bad are hardwired within you and thus the map.

Email me when you are ready.

Answer 3

I am in my mid-thirties and everything I do is affected by my abusive childhood. I only had to experience neglect and emotional abuse. I can imagine you scars could even run deeper.

Regular therapy to recognize the patterns is the key to feeling better. Medication may help too.

Many psychologists and psychiatrists have sliding scale fees to help if you can't afford the treatment or don't have insurance. Support groups are great too. Adult Children of Alcoholics, etc.

I know it hurts and the days seem dark but you will get through this with some professional help. Best of Luck.

Answer 4

Most of the times our live we are living in now is affected by our childhood events. However, we have to learn to face the future otherwise we would never be able to move forward and face the challenges ahead and to make correct decisions to overcome them.

Thinking about the past would only make your life and yourself miserable, especially when you had an unpleasant childhood. So friend forget about the past, it was you when you were a child and not having enough power to make things work your way but now you have got all that power and could live up your life your way, so why not enjoy this "beautiful" world and make our life colourful to neutralize our childhood experience.

As they say in the "entertainment world" that "show must go on" so does the live!!! Live it and love it!!

Answer 5

Hi there I'm in pretty much the same situation,and yes it does effect how you feel now,I've been carrying mine about for 45 years even though i have talk to people about it,so i guess I'm stuck with it for life,but I've learned to put all my emotional pain into boxes stored away in my head,with the lids firmly on tight.maybe you could learn to do this as it's the only way i have found that will help

Answer 6

Even thought it happened along time ago, you still have the scar from your child hood that never goes away. The scar is something nobody can see but you. Find a counsellor and talk to them it really helps in a big way. It help me in a big way. I have never forgot the stuff but they help me to being a better person.

Answer 7

everything you do and everything that happens to you makes you the person you are. If you have been through a traumatic experience as a child you have to learn to come to terms with it. ie; it wasn't your fault, you were just a child and so forth. Time does not heal some pains unless you work through it. Try counseling.

Answer 8

Yes and you need to see a psychologist or psychiatrist for counselling if it really disturbs you. anger and resentment may be normal but with your situation it could be exaggerated because of childhood life.

Answer 9

looks such as you have alot of baggage that your carrying around. perchance you may flow to counseling and attempt to parent this out. while some thing dramatic like that happens it does influence you and how you reside your existence. the main serious element is that in case you have a relatives, you mustn't enable your anger and resentment flow in direction of them, in view that could desire to cause them to have issues sooner or later as nicely. i've got self belief that talking with somebody helps me, and with the severity of your childhood incidents, professional help in all risk is the main suitable thank you to flow. perchance then you definately can flow previous those terrible issues that befell to you and flow on with your existence with out each and all the anger. i'm hoping issues quite artwork out for you.

Answer 10

Of course. Childhood events write the script that we live out for the rest of our lives. Subconsciously we tend to seek out the things that have caused us harm not because we enjoy reliving them, but because we want to resolve the issues they raised.