He knows I am single. He is single also. We spend alot of time texting. When we get too close he pulls back, but he does this with everybody. I am a little older than him, I am white he is black, I have never met anyone like him, but I don't know if he is even attracted to me. I am wealthy, he is not poor, but he still has to work to pay his bills, he is also housing his mother, she is lovely.
2006-10-23 19:44:51 · 10 answers · asked by motogirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't come right out and "tell him." Put out a couple of feelers to see how he responds. You're probably not going to want to spoil your friendship. Since you're in the "friend zone," you can't get out of that overnight. Baby steps is probably the way to go. Meet him for a casual lunch on a Saturday. Catch a movie. Ask him to a nicer restaurant. Then reach for his hand one day while walking. Innocent enough. If he holds your hand back, keep slowly progressing. If he takes his hand away, you have your answer, and no damage done :)
Edit: I read some of the previous posts. Don't come out and tell him out of no where, take my advice on this one. Take it slow, he's not going anywhere anytime soon at all :)
2006-10-23 19:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by mjfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you could be throwing away a great friendship,but can you take him finding a girl that might not treat him right.Take a chance,only if it feels right,and you have thought over the pros and cons.If you think that this is a love of a lifetime go for it,you don't get many chances at this..
2006-10-24 02:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah tell him. If not, then you will never know what may happen. You don't have to tell him that you are in "love" with him. That may scare him away. Maybe invite him out to lunch or somethin and if he is your best friend then he will let you talk to him about your feelings. Tell him that you have feelings for him and their more than friendship. He may respect that. He may not. All that I'm saying is that if you never express what you truly feel to him, you may never know the outcome. Don't be scared of what could happen; be scared of what may never happen because of you never saying anything to him.
2006-10-24 02:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. Kiss him.
If it's going to be a good successful romantic relationship in practice, then talking about it beforehand would probably be extremely tense and awkward, and possibly de-rail the whole damn thing!
If it's the kind of relationship where you should tell him instead of kissing him, then you're probably better off as friends!
2006-10-24 02:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to put more info in.... like your ages...how long you have known each other, But I think that you prob. already know that once you tell him or act on those feelings, things will be VERY DIFFERENT... could stop being BEST friends... that would suck. GL
2006-10-24 02:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by TamBam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the rest of answers,
my daughter has a best friend of 14 years, she
told him how she felt,and he told her he felt the same way. they are together now,and very happy. take a chance.
2006-10-24 02:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't just come right out and say "I Love You" just say something like "I hope this won't ruin our friendship or anything but I like you and I was wondering how you felt about me?"
2006-10-24 02:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by BRITTz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have to tell him if he likes you then you will have the good chance other wise you will know what is in her mind and you can act acordingly.
2006-10-24 02:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by creed 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tellhim how you feel,at least it'll be out in the open and color and money doesnt mean anything, good luck
2006-10-24 02:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes tell the guy
2006-10-24 02:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by GOOCH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋