woke 1 day and said he doesn't want any relationships. i left and have found out all his family and a couple of his closest friends abused him and said you just lost the best thing and they stopped talk in to him for over a month. since i lest nearly 2 months ago he has been drinking he says its cause he is hurting, he says he doesn't have what he wants cause then he wouldn't need what i gave him and he calls me every 2-3 days like 3 times a day and he wanted me to see him when i could and i let him know i would be down soon and then i went down and he got up me cause i didn't tell him i was going down and he says we are good friends but he was hiding from me and would only talk to me via text when he could handle it. any guys or girls got any ideas
2006-10-23 19:41:11 · 4 answers · asked by tab j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stay away from him......... you cant stay with someone because they have had a bad life so far and if he is ever going to get over his pass he has to do it himself.......... has it is he can keep you around forever cause he is making you feel bad............ just let it go and let him work it out for himself .if he doesnt get straight with himself he will never be good with anyone else
2006-10-23 19:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he knows what to expect with you and he needs to decide whether he wants a relationship with you. He's stringing you along because he's scared, but it's not fair to you. Don't be his shoulder to cry on, he has to pick, so you can live your life, not his past. I'm not trying to trivialize what he eperienced;
I was abused as a child too, I know something of what he went through, but it's not an excuse to use you. He's an adult now isn't he? Try getting some couple councelling.
2006-10-23 19:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop answering his calls and stop chasing after him. He made a decision and he needs to live with it. He is keeping you on a string and you are letting him. Go do something with your friends instead.
2006-10-23 19:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is stringing you along..and if he truely loved you he would never put you through this...find someone that will be for you like you are for them,if he says you are great friends then why isnt he great towards you and treat you like a good friend rather than get up you for not telling him you were coming...he should think himself lucky your even still about...
2006-10-23 19:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by waveboy7675 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋