I am so worried about many things i want to get systematic and decide what to do, im 23 shud i think about marriage, but i want to make my carrer first and help my family financially, but my family is worried about my marriage. tell me what woul u do if u were in the swame place?????
2006-10-23 19:23:19 · 13 answers · asked by Cool gal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your goals are good and practical. I agree with you totally. At 23, you can wait for a few more years to set up a career first and then marry. And that should be the right line of thinking for all modern girls. Try your best to convince your parents to change their priorities for you. Reason well and there is no reason why they wouldn't agree. But at the same time try to accomodate your parents' wishes and don't postpone your marriage indefinitely. That wouldn't be good for you either. And here's wishing you best of luck.
2006-10-23 19:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's important that you are financially secure and independent first so you establish a career. If you get married before and your family is counting on you for help the strain could ruin your marriage as money destroys a lot of them. Take care of yourself first. You will have a better foundation for a successful union if you are both working towards your goals. You are just 23. There are other priorities.
2006-10-24 02:32:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very young, so don't worry about getting married. You also shouldn't worry about helping your family financially - you are your parent's responsibility, not vice versa. If you can take care of yourself it will ease their financial burden.
I've seen many situations like this in Latin America and the Philippines where the children are sending money to the parents out in their provinces, and I think it is absolutely horible. Everyone should start taking responsibility for their own actions and selves. This is an ever-perpetuating situation. You need to start saving for yourself, so that your kids won't have to support you when you are older.
2006-10-24 02:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by Sanmigsean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all think of your career.By getting a job and becoming financially independent you will be automatically easing your family's burden.Marraige can follow , either arranged or otherwise.Our society's traditional thinking of marrying off their girls by the time they graduate was aimed at making them "socio-economically secure" so to spaek.But times have changed and don't think of marraige as an immediate must.
2006-10-24 05:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by a_zx2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go back to school and learn to spell better.
Then I would ignore my family and do what would make ME feel good about myself because I'm the only person I'd have to look at in the mirror everyday.
2006-10-24 02:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can make our life better to help each other in family and also you can mary if you and h loves you and there must me conpreention in both sides and good relationship with family.
2006-10-24 07:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by PICK - INDIA - PORTUGAL LISBON 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should follow ur heart desire, because if u follow what they r tellin' u, u might end up not knowin' urself any more.
i hope u get what u want, not what ur family tells u to do.
good luck
2006-10-24 07:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by honey bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MAKE YOUR CARRIER IS A RIGHT THING BUT FINANCIALLY HELP IS SECOND ONE. HOW MUCH ARE THEY POOR FINANCIAL. THIS YOU WILL HAVE TO MEASURE. IF THEY ARE OK BUT NOT RICH THEN YOU GO FOR MARRIAGE.
2006-10-24 06:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can marry later but first of all u need to make ur career
2006-10-24 02:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by sunny g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live for yourself , dont be bothered about others and am sure you will live a better life.
Ask yuor parenst for more time and am sure they cannot force you to it.
2006-10-24 02:46:31 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋