I have a lover who is reluctant to commit. He does have alot of problems. A few weeks ago he asked for three months and we would be together forever
a week later he said he need time and space to think. So whats up with him. Sex was good, we had fun, he called almost every day
2006-10-23 19:19:56 · 14 answers · asked by e_piphany214 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nelson Algren, a winner of a 1950 National Book Award for "The Man with the Golden Arm" had some very good life advice which holds true today.
Never eat at a restaurant called Mom's; never play poker with a man named Slim; and never go to bed with someone whose troubles are greater than you own.
2006-10-23 19:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ecks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's still getting over someone else?
It's only been 1 1/2 months. Relax. Or did you mean to write YEARS?
It's not like you're asking him to marry you. Maybe he didn't really want to get into a serious relationship in the first place.
The obvious thing to do is tell him what you want and ask what he wants. If all he does is waffle, then get another man because you obviously are not interested in just casual sex.
2006-10-23 19:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Balk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes more than just sex for a relationship to work, I know - been there done that! You need to have a common interest in things and I guess, bottom line is, he's not committed enough to make this work - maybe he's too young and doesn't know what he really wants. Good luck, don't keep the front light burning for him, get out there and enjoy yourself :-)
2006-10-23 19:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by p_n_williams2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once sex is entered into a relationship, it changes it in many ways. And it will never be the same as it was. This is not your first time at sex, so nothing I can say would have much influence on you here. If you cannot trust him then it is probably a decision you will regret in the future sometime. But if you are asking if oral sex is enough to satisfy most guys for a while, I would have to yes.
2016-05-22 04:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both of you are wrong for talking about commitment after only 1.5 months. I suggest dropping the 'commitment' talk, and just have fun with each other for several more months before even beginning to talk about serious relationships.
2006-10-23 19:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has major problems? Take the easy way out, leave, take some room of your own. Who needs more problems. Mood swings, sudden changes, he could be mentally unstable. Possible bi-polar not on medication. Need more information but I would be carefull. Some mental disorders take time to figure out.
2006-10-23 19:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by Ela S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop dating him. Stop sleeping with men and look for a husband. Which means go on dates where you talk, not touch. You did things the wrong way around by sleeping with him before you knew him. Now you feel bad. Tough beans. You made a mistake.
2006-10-23 19:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by old c programmer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out. I know from first hand expirience that If a guy is scared of commitment and talks about forever, he will never bring himself into that reality. Im one of those guys and whoever Im with I just end up hurting.
2006-10-23 19:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he had a little fling with you and maybe thought you were too easy since you've only been dating 1 1/2 months.
2006-10-23 19:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Room means it's over
2006-10-23 19:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by swami242 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋