Im so over going out and noone ever approaching me. Im easily 6'2-3 with heels, not ugly or fat. I have curves (T and A, to break it down for those of you who thinks Curvy is fat) What gives? I refuse to starve myself so I can be asked out. And I dont really see myself shrinking anytime soon. And, I dont want to hear that Im "intimidating" and all that crap. And YES, I like taller guys, like 6'3 and up. I dont want to look like Tom Cruise and Katie....
2006-10-23 19:10:38 · 11 answers · asked by dconkle_ny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're looking at this the wrong way. You have a built-in filter. Guys don't ask you out because they're intimidated by your height, especially because they assume (correctly, apparently) that you're looking for someone taller than you.
Your filter is this: Which guys aren't talking to you? The guys who are intimidated by you, and can't muster the courage to overcome that. Are you interested in these types of guys? I hope not. Which guys will, albeit less frequently, talk to you? Guys that *can* must up the courage to talk with you and ask you out. I think you'd prefer a confident, courages type over a wussy, wouldn't you? There's your filter, congrats :)
2006-10-23 19:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by mjfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what's funny? I'm 5'2'', and I don't ever get noticed because NO ONE CAN SEE ME!! I can't see anyone, for that matter. ,': ) I actually have to climb up on the countertops in the kitchen because my boyfriend hides snacks from me on the top shelf.
My boyfriend is 6'4''. One time, when we first started dating, I was supposed to meet him at a bar downtown. When I walked in, he was talking to this gorgeous, curvy girl who had to be at least six tall. I was not in a position to be a jealous snatch at the time, since we were only dating and, well, no rules had been laid out. I waited until she walked away to walk up. He turned to me and said, "Baby, I'm sorry, it's just that there aren't many women who are TALL enough." I watched her walk away and thought, "Oh, what I would give to be at LEAST average height!"
So, I am a little jealous of you. Whenever I walk into a crowded room, what I would GIVE to be able to see people without having to jump up and down!
I was going to say it sounds to be, for both of us, a case of "You always want what you can't have." But maybe, I don't know, you should try to worry about something you CAN change. For example, maybe next time you go out, when you're getting ready, tell yourself, "I am going to introduce myself to two new people tonight," or, "I am going to make eye contact and smile to at least 5 people tonight." For me, waiting to be approached is not an option, and maybe it just isn't for you, either.
2006-10-23 19:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I feel your pain and I'm only 5'8"!!.....but I feel like I tower over many guys too. Have you tried not wearing heals? I know, not very glamorous but it might help. And I agree with you.....the guy should always be taller than the girl :) Seems most of the tall guys play basketball....have you tried online?
2006-10-23 19:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha! you should open your mind up. you spend that whole paragraph talking about how guys shouldn't judge you for your height, and then what?? you say a guy has to be 6' 3" or up. do you realize how few guys are that tall? give me a break!!!! stop worrying about what you and a guy would look like. god forbid your dream man be a measly 5'10" - 6'2." oh, the horror!!!
2006-10-23 19:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by painfullyaverage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach them, this isn't the 50s anymore. One of the hottest things is when a woman winks at me across a room when no one is looking. Another of my favorites, this one lady came to me and said, "I have a secret to tell you in you room..." Ladies will have a way higher success rate than men, pick one out and I bet you'll win.
2006-10-23 20:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by guysmiley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you answered your own question. you dont like guys shorter than you. and the tall guys dont approach you. you gotta find a place where all the tall guys hang out. that should improve your odds. i know how it is. i like women who are shorter than me. ive never turned any down because they were taller.
2006-10-23 19:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
interesting question, i am tall but too tall for a shorter man. It does not matter when laying down.
2006-10-23 19:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by wanttolpve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a bar where all the guys arent a bunch of pusses
2006-10-23 19:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, you may want to revise your question. Might want to lower your height regulation too.
2006-10-23 19:28:07 · answer #9 · answered by Iron What? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm. maybe cuz guys at bars are short?
2006-10-23 19:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by Cindyyy<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋