I went on a Christian retreat. To attract some attention from a couple girls I thought were cute I tried to be funny. But, they just ignored me. So, I just go louder and louder. To the point where I was obnoxious. I didnt want to go up to them and just start questioning them. It would look too much like Im hitting on them. I failed miserably no coffee dates no email addresses. What do Christian girls look for? So, how do I approach trying to smooze a Christian girl? Can you give me a different strategy? Thank You God Bless!
2006-10-23 19:08:39 · 15 answers · asked by chicsdig 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Some answers I got were like.....trust in God to provide for you. Well, I agree to a point. Thats an easy way out & lazy way out. I trust that God will provide a wife (willing) and I trust that he will provide food, shelter, job etc. for me. But that does not give me the right to not try as hard as I can in achieving those goals. I dont expect God to send me a check in the mail. I trust that he will provide for me if I give it my all as well.
Thank you so much for such Christ like answers so far. Very encouraging! Convicting as well!
2006-10-23 19:27:25 · update #1
Why don't you focus on being the right person instead trying to find the right person?
If you are the right person, you will attract the right people.
2006-10-23 19:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Adyghe Ha'Yapheh-Phiyah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This one is definately a no-brainer.
If you are only going to a Christian retreat to impress Christian women then there is something wrong with you *no offense* you should go because you want to praise the Lord, NOT because you want email addresses or coffee dates with a Christian woman.
There is a special someone out there for everyone, and when God thinks you are ready to date one of his children then you will know. Until then, go to retreats because you want to become closer to God, NOT because you want a Christian girl.
But, to answer your question...
we all look for different things in a guy. But what gets our attention the most is when a nice, kind man goes to church and praises the Lord.
2006-10-23 19:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by CaLiFoRnIa_PaGeAnT_GiRl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever try just talking to them and trying to get to know them as a friend and move from there, lol. Christian girls are still human you know. I think that if you just tried to befriend some of them and see if you really want to move from there it would work better than getting obnoxious at a retreat. Maybe ask a girl that you are interested in if she would like to go for lunch - possibly for a bible discussion? - sometime. Then you could get to know the real person and find out where each other really stands in your faith at the same time. good luck and God bless.
2006-10-23 19:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by magen n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your timing was off.
Either one of these girls may have been interested under different circumstances. (Or not, but it's no big deal). Sounds like they wanted to do the girl chat thing at that time.
I hope you don't always try for the unavailable, (because it is safe, or re-affirms a need to be rejected).
Look for opportunities when a girl is left out, and maybe would welcome some company. Or if there are two, buddy up so both have company.
(What are two girls going to do with one guy?)
2006-10-23 20:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jimmy Dean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself; don't try to intentionally impress a girl. We're really good at picking up on that. I don't know about most girls, but I get flustered just seeing a strong Christian guy - a GENUINE Christian guy. I don't want my guy to cuss, drink, or smoke - high standards, I know - but I don't want to just settle for a guy; I want someone who when he worships and shows people the love of God he makes me just sit there and go, "Wow. I wish my faith was that strong."
2006-10-23 19:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by Courtney B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christian girls don't look for boys, they're concentrating too much on Jesus Christ. By the way, if you're Christian, ahy do you even have to look for girls? God will give to you without you even knowing.
2006-10-23 19:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kool_Kermit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same strategy for regular girls applies to Christian ones also (Common mistake, so don't get too upset). The strategy is Alcohol
2006-10-23 19:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by Einsteininium 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats cute! You have to understand that we like funny, maybe they were shy?
A good idea is think of a few things you can do to have fun but not compromise their religious beliefs.
Don't be too cheesy!
2006-10-23 19:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by geeeezzzzeeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying, but remember that Christian women are looking for husband material, and that their husband must love Christ. If your words or actions indicated that you one or both of these didn't apply to you, you aren't getting anywhere.
2006-10-23 19:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try something a lil more subtle like hitting them over their heads with your Bible?? Maybe the reason they ignored you is because you aren't their type. Whether you're Christian, Catholic, Jewish~whatever, Be Yourself!
2006-10-23 19:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by yobaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋