see, one guy is there and he admitted that he loves me but one or twice i told him no. than he attempt sucicide but he surivied? bcz of that he wont do in future again the same i thought that meanwhile i say him yes and when time comes i will tell him no. now i told him not to continue the relationship as i dont want to marry him. so now he is telling that he will tell about our relationship to my dad and will come home. so i am worried. if he will really comes and will tell than. as i am soon going to get married and he tells that he will even spoil my married life also. he tells that now at any cost i wont you. but i dont love him at all. and i dont want to marry him? Plz help me
2006-10-23 19:06:35 · 17 answers · asked by blooming_ruby11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He doesn't love you and what is him telling your dad about a non-existant relationship gonna do? Tell your dad he is a psycho out to get you and that you never knew him, that'll keep him off you and your dad will surely understnad because he wants to protect you
2006-10-23 19:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget that fellow and sit on the table and tell your parents that this guy is torturing you and spreading false information that you are having relations with him. Because if your parents know from out it will be more difficult to handle. It will be a little difficult to handle it. But your parents will surely be with you rather than hear the words from out side. Secondly your parents may look for a better place for you to get married.
In case you get married to this fellow in question i am sure your life will be doomed and he will always keep threatening that he will kill himself. I am seeing in real life a case where a guy threatened and got married and the family is unhappy. The other girl is getting married next week i.e., with in one month after she told her parents and leaving for singapore. The guy who says he loves her is earning only Rs7500/- whereas she is getting married to a person who is earning 120000/- per month. If you still think i can be of any help mail me through this channel. Take a good time and inform your parents about this guy surely.
2006-10-24 02:29:50 · answer #2 · answered by lkslalit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get a restraining order against this man. Second, tell your future husband about him, tell your father about him so that they can protect you from him. Lies lead to no good. You need to be honest so that they also know what is going on and you wont feel so afraid of what he can do. If he even comes close to you, after you get a restraining order at the police station, then you call the cops and he will get arrested. Also, since he seems a bit psycho, try not to be alone in case he follows you.
2006-10-24 02:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you are getting blackmailed. You must open up to your parents and narrate the entire situation. Your parents will definitely burst with anger but you will have to face this. Once your parents cool down, then suggest inviting the boy to meet them. They should put him down in a very soft manner.
After this is done, your parents must talk to the parents of the proposed boy. The possibility is that this engagement may get cancelled and you will have to face this situation. If the boy's parents are intelligent, they will understand the situation.
This is happening to may grils in metro cities. You crave for a boy friend and end up in a mess.
It is better to face the situation now boldly rather than keeping a lingering doubt in your mind for lifetime. Never show even an iota of compassion to the blackmailer. If necessary, your parents must lodge a police complaint against that boy.
2006-10-24 02:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you wove the net and got strangled yourself. anyways, forgetting the past , First thing first tell your dad everything. don't be afraid your not the one who's guilty. ask your dad to talk to his parents about the situation and how this guy is troubling you. i would suggest that u also tell your to-be-life partner about this guy. he might get a little angry but it's better this way because if he comes to know about it through this guy ,it may lead to misunderstandings. Plz girl don't stay quiet take some action . don't let this crazy fellow spoil ur life . all the best !
2006-10-25 04:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by whatever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are caught in the web which is being wooven by you, so firstly accept and admit that u r also a part of it, then take ur ddad into confidence, tell him honestly wat had happened(ok little bit manupulations is allowed), and then try to fight it out, u can probably tell his parents, whether u can tell it ur fiancee or not depend on ur relationship with him, but calm down, or the very first thing u can do is just talk to him politely and tell him that if reaaly love me, u have to give me freedom to b happy , ( and other senti stuff) , if that doesnt help then u can tell ur dad .. and rest of the things, even if he doesnt undestand, alteast u satisfied that u tried, i hope everything goes well, but maintain distance, cut off al contacts after u tell him its over, all the best
2006-10-24 02:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by hmmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad first and be done with it. Your dad will always be there for you. I am certain , he will understand. He is family. Instead of you worrying day and night whether the guy will come or not. If you tell your dad, i know he will even help you and protect you as any father would do.
2006-10-24 06:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell Ur dad, mom, or any other family member to whom u r close or to whom who can understand Ur feeling
don't be afraid the person doesn't seem to have guts & simply discouraging u from marrying some other person.
once ur family will support he may get away from ur life very easily as he know that ur family is with u.
don't even get afraid of whether he tells ur fiancee as this problem of urs should be handled by ur father & other elders of urs.
u just need not worry & disclose the truth to ur family members after which u can say that u r felling very sorry for wat u did & now will do watever ur family members will decide.
best of luck!
2006-10-24 09:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never ever come under antone's pressure....if u do tht means u r a weak person n u deserve it...tell him he free to spk to ur father...my guess is he wont cm...n if he comes ur father will handle it real good...n he will be behind bars
u must tell u parents about this n seek theirt advice n help
better late thn never
2006-10-24 02:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by red devil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didn't read all ur question but just closed my eyes to sense what sort of person u could be....
a scared person with very very low self-esteem...
This guy is using his emotions to make u feel like this...
he knows u r an emotional person...u need to toughen up and threaten him by saying u will report him to the police...
U need to stop feeling guilty about him bcus this is what is stopping u from shouting at him...
I hpe this works...
good luck!
2006-10-24 07:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by snowflake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋