my ex was cheating on me and is pregnant by another guy. as normal im extrememly mad and upset. but on the other hand, i think i still love her. we was together for a long time and we had plans to get married, have kids etc. we used to be real real close. we had something special. is it normal for me to still have these feelings for her? and i dont think finding another woman is the answer. i believe in loyalty and being faithful. even when its hard to.
i may have to find another woman in the future, but i dont think it will feel the same as it did with my ex. i dont even feel the same about the love thing anymore. is all this normal? or do i just need time to get over all of this. plus my other problem is i cant seem to stop thinking about the fact that she's pregnant and her having the baby and me not being there and it not being mine. how can you get over a thing like this.?
2006-10-23 18:42:08 · 6 answers · asked by jordan h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say that faithfulness and loyalty is important to you..obviously it is not the same for her. It is normal to mourn the loss of a "love", to think you'll never love again, to not want to be around people..all normal and passing feelings.
Time, as cheesy as it is and cliche as it is, will heal your wounds. You will always probably think back to her and your relationship at times in your life, but you WILL meet someone some day who will love you with the faithfulness and honesty every human being deserves.
Don't settle, don't wait around mooning over her..she's got a new life starting. Start living yours!
2006-10-23 18:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize the fact that if she ever loved you truly, she would not cheat on you. But she did, so it shows that her love for you was never enough for her to be faithful to you.
The hurting you feel right now is quite normal because you love her truly but was betrayed by her at the end. And because your love for her is true, even time cannot take that love away from your heart.
You can only escape from the hurting and the pains brought about by her infidelity if you would accept the fact that she doesn't deseve your love and tears. With that acceptance and realization, it would be easier for you to move on with the great hope in your heart that someday, somehow, the right woman would come along your way and give you the love that you truly deserve. All the best.
2006-10-23 18:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a year or two and you'll feel better. Obviously it's a bad situation and you need to move on. You know the right answer already, you just have to man up and face it. Start talking to other chicks eventually you'll find some other chick that will screw up your life again :) and you'll be right back here asking the same question saying "NO, this time this really was the chick for me" :) (hate to say it ... but ... MANY FISH IN THE OCEAN!!!)
2006-10-23 18:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Makai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, u gotta forget her. She is pregnant with someone else. What would be a bigger cheating than this?
"but i dont think it will feel the same as it did with my ex" WRONG. If you find a faithful one, you should even feel far better in long run.
2006-10-23 18:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a faithful guy like you need a faithful girl who wudn't do somthign behind you and respect your love for her.
let time come and give you that woman .
2006-10-23 18:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day at a time.
2006-10-23 18:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Big Eagle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋