Our relationship wasnt bad persay but the past 6 months neither of us were getting what we really want.. it wouldve been 2 years on thursday.. I love him still but i know that if its meant to be it will be at a later time.. im surprisingly calm and happy..i havent been single for 2 yrs ,, thats both scary and exciting.. anybody have any advice on how to meet new people?
2006-10-23 18:28:26 · 17 answers · asked by pinkcandiez871 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's normal, most people experience a calm before the storm. You will probably soon find yourself crying at the drop of a hat for the relationship that was. This is all just part of the healing process. My suggestion is to meet people that share your interest. For instance if you like poetry, try meeting someone at a poetry reading. If you like a religious background similiar to yours meet someone from church. I would highly recommend a time out to get to know you better first. You have been part of a couple for a long time, you need to get reacquainted with the single you before you meet someone else.
Best Wishes!!!
2006-10-23 18:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you do not jump into another relationship immediately. Girls tend to do this because if they are semi attractive they can do so. Sit with it for a while. If you get in the habit of never being alone you will develop a co-dependent modus operandi.
Be single for a while and just work on yourself. It's a totally different experience than being with someone. Maybe do something that you would not normally do if coupled with someone. Try picking up an instrument, writing poetry, spending more time with friends, taking a trip, curle up with a good book, investigate philosophy, etc.
Best of wishes on your introspective journey. May it be an enlightening time in your life.
2006-10-23 18:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting new people is pretty easy. Just put yourself out there. Join some kind of community group. Take an aerobics or yoga course. Maybe a class somewhere. There are people all over the place!
And it's perfectly fine to be calm and relieved. It didn't sound like you were entirely happy with the relationship. Now you have a chance to find something that's perfect with you.
2006-10-23 18:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I felt the same way when I broke up with my boyfriend of three years. I would ask my mom what was wrong with me like everyday because there had to be something wrong with me if I didnt even miss him right? Wrong. Obviously things were over for a long time if you havent been about him for 6 months now. You are feeling a great sense of freedom and its so nice not to have to answer to someone. Haha I felt like I couldve done anything in the world when we broke up and he wasnt even controlling. We cry about broken hearts, and then wonder when we dont have them why we arent hurting.
2006-10-23 18:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by jenmimo7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably in the "acceptance" stage. After a 2yr relationship you may have gotten there a little sooner than most, but there's nothing to be ashamed of, you're just well adjusted to the fact that it's over, & now you are ready to move on.
2006-10-23 18:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal as can be, Just means that this was not meant to be, and your feelings for this person were not as strong as thought. Go out with friends or by yourself doing things you enjoy doing, that way you can meet people with same interests.
2006-10-23 18:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel this way because you havent been single in a long time so in a way you feel like you were tied down and now you are free to do as you feel. Just dont rush into anything because you might do something that you will later regret
2006-10-23 18:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are not far away from you. You are around the people. Gym, Library, Parks, Shopping Mall, maybe you have finally time to spend unlimited time for yourself and find some hobby, art classes whatever ........
Good luck, on your new way of life.
2006-10-23 18:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure i havent gone through a break up but my best friend is and she seems pretty cool about it "IM SINGLE!!!" she keeps yelling lol i think u shouldnt go and start dating just yet wait a lil bit to make sure ur ok and over it. but be happy ur single u get more freedom like that. so good luck and have fun ;)
2006-10-23 18:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by Beca <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my bf just broke up with me for the past 4 years I have been dateing. The calm normal thing is a natural reflex when you are hurt. I know cause I am going through it. Through your friends!!
2006-10-23 18:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by livinlife06 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋