I've been going out with him for 2 years when we decided to break up. He said that his work, college stuff, family were taking a toll on him and he just wants to back off. I was also getting pissed because he was distant and not telling me what was wrong. So anyways, we both agreed to break up before our relationship gets too nasty. And we remained to be really good friends. But after 3 or 4 months, things started to go back to how we were. We would go out during weekends and just automatically hold hands. We would kiss when a moment comes. He would pay for my dinner and movies. We would have sex. He calls everynight before he goes to sleep to ask about my day and tells me about his. Both of us didn't date anyone else. We takes care of each other when one of us is sick...etc. All the stuff sounds like what a couple would do to me. But we never really said that we are back together again, and this has been bothering me because i don't know exactly what we are to each other.
2006-10-23 18:25:45 · 9 answers · asked by Deesa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some things don't need to be said, they just are.
2006-10-23 18:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by DumBlonD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys need to have a talk about where things are headed. If its not toward a relationship then you need to stop all this! Its just going to cause more emotional pain for the both of you. Either its on or its off... no more in between stuff!
2006-10-24 01:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by ApRiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing with men is, they hate to feel pressure. If he perceives that you are placing too much expectation or regulations on him, he'll respond with non- chalant behaviour, or by walking the other way. It sounds like he isn't ready to commit to you. He likes the way things are- you two are 'just friends'but you're f**k buddies by all intents and purposes; 2 people who do bf/gf stuff with no obligations. He's having his cake and eating it too, he gets you physically, and you're even faithful to him, but he has no obligation to you as you're 'just friends'. You have to decide if you want to be with him properly. If yes, then tell him to stop mucking you about and to step his game up, or you walk. If no, continue as you are with the understanding to yourself that you are 'keepin g your options open'. He sounds like a bit of a wet bag and he needs to get some balls.
2006-10-24 01:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits.A lot of men prefer this over relationship...They way to find out if he is serious about you is to go out on another date with a guy. If he flips his lid, them you have some decisions to make and so does he !!
2006-10-24 01:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MAY NEED TO SIT DOWN AND ASK HIM WHAT GOING
ON WITH THIS. BECAUSE IT SOUND LIKE YOU ARE BACK
TOGETHER, BUT IF YOU NOT THEN YOU NEED TO KNOW
THAT SO THAT YOU CAN MOVE ON. BECAUSE IF THIS
IS HOW IT WILL BE AS FRIEINDS. THEN BOTH OF YOU
WILL KNOW THAT AND YOU CAN MOVE ON WITH OTHER
PEOPLE. YOU CANT MOVE FORWARD IF YOU STILL STUCK
IN THE PAST..
2006-10-24 01:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking it over with him would help the situation out.
2006-10-24 01:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a convenient roll in the hay.
2006-10-24 01:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by MR HENRY S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have been relegated to a booty call..........
2006-10-24 01:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lori1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be just about time to ask him.
2006-10-24 01:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by KJC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋